I am hesitant to post about this, but since there are so many moms (and some dads!) on the board, I thought it would be a good place to get some input, since VF'ers are such helpful and kind people
I apologize for rambling
The major point of my post is to see if anyone else has gone through trying to get accommodations for a child with a learning issue, and if you have any input.
I have a twelve year old son who is currently in seventh grade. Ever since preschool, he has trouble with staying in his seat during class and talking too much. It never was a major problem until the last few months of sixth grade, which was last school year. In addition to getting up during class and talking, he was not finishing his work, which was my main concern.
I had some meetings with the school counselor, who said maybe it was ADD, but to see if he matured over the summer and we would see how it goes. I honestly did not think it was ADD, since at home he could concentrate on things for sustained periods of time (and not just video games!) which included reading books he enjoyed,and hours sorting baseball cards by team, and organizing his many cds.
From the beginning of seventh grade, his grades continued to drop, and we got the results from the standardized tests from last spring. His scores had gone down on there as well.
I asked for a meeting with the child study team at his school. I had made a long list of things I had noticed at home about his school work and other issues. I wanted to get him tested for learning disabilities. They said they felt it was not a learning issue, since he got really good grades in most of elementary school and had done very well on the standardized tests in the first few years. They said to have his pediatrician write a referral to get him evaluated for ADD.
The doctor the pediatrician's office uses for evaluations had a four month waiting list. I researched and found a neuropsychologist on my own that was in our town and was able to set up the evaluations quickly. They did three days of testing. Upon meeting with the neuropyschologist, he looked over the reports from my son's teachers (the school psychologist had several of his teachers fill them out) and a copy of the list I had made for his school meeting. He remarked to one of the post docs who was doing the testing that the information I had written up myself was the "most helpful information they had." (so if anyone here has concerns about their own child, keep looking until you get answers!).
Anyway (sorry to be so long winded-thanks for reading this far!), we had a meeting with the doctor last week who had a preliminary report. Our son does NOT have ADD-ironically, he has a really good attention span! The doctor said it was really good we did not just take the word of someone else and get him put on medication for a condition he does not have.
However, he likely has a non verbal learning disorder. I am not good at explaining it yet, but in simple terms, he learns much better through hearing than by seeing. It also affects spacial relations. The kids with this have trouble with math because it is usually done in columns, reading maps, graphs and charts, and interpreting information they have read, like making inferences from reading. They also have trouble with art work. That struck me as odd, but then I remembered my son having trouble in art class the last quarter of last year-the assignments were mainly arranging cut out pictures on paper. It is not usually caught early because these kids can be extremely verbal and have a great vocabulary. Also, as the work in school gets harder, they become frustrated and start acting up in class, which mimics signs of ADD.
They also have issues with motor skills, which I found interesting-they do fine with things that only use one side of the body at a time, but have trouble with things that use both sides of the body at once. I had said our son played baseball for four years, and was an excellent pitcher and first baseman. I did not mention that he always struggled with hitting. The doctor said, "I bet he didn't hit well, though right? They do well at pitching/throwing because that mainly uses only one side of the body at a time." Now we know why he struggled with hitting in spite of hours of practice. He also had trouble with learning to ride a bike, and gave up for several years. He tried again when he was around nine and does fine-he also now can ride a scooter and skateboard (I hate that thing!) so go figure!
We are fortunate that it has not at all affected him socially. Kids with NVLD can also have trouble making and keeping friends and have trouble getting humor and sarcasm. That is the total opposite of our son-he has a lot of friends and a very sharp and quick sense of humor. I am very thankful for that!
Anyway, the point of my long post is now we are waiting for the official report to be finished by the doctor's office. They said they will meet with the child study team at my son's school (likely after winter break). I am very glad they will be there to advocate for him. I have a good friend who is attending graduate school to become a Special Education teacher, and she recently interviewed a principal in our school district. She said she was told that they try to do as much as possible to keep kids in the public schools and help them there. When I asked the doctor about school, he had brought up a private school for kids with language based learning disorders. I am not sure how I feel about that. On one hand, it would be wonderful for him to be taught by teachers who are specifically trained, but it is a very small school.
He has been with the same kids since kindergarten, and I'd hate for him to leave all his friends. Also, I worry about him spending the rest of middle school/high school at the specialized school, and then adjusting to college, which would be a totally different atmosphere.
Thank you for any input, and I apologize for writing so much!
Sherry