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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Boston, MA
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08-29-21, 06:49 PM | |
Join Date: Mar 2007
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I’ve been thinking about this thread a lot and it makes me sad because this is something that has no easy answers.
I remember when my grandpa was in a nursing home and they treated him so badly. My cousin is currently in a nursing home and not treated well. My sister works in an assisted living home and I don’t know how she does it. They are short staffed like everywhere else, so she often works double shifts. She said when they do get applicants, the people generally want to work the overnight shift, thinking they can just sleep and leave when the residents wake up, but it doesn’t work that way. My sister has no problem at all cleaning up barf from the floor and poop from the walls. She does a lot with the residents. I was there a couple weeks ago and they have quite a garden growing. They were also in the middle of a rummage sale that appeared to be a disorganized mess but the residents were having a lot of fun. One resident (an adult male) adores my sister on his good days. He is non verbal except for one word - my sister’s name. On his bad days, he can get physical with her and has punched her and pulled her hair until she’s cried. They need to get the right kind of people to work in nursing homes, but I don’t know how you attract those people to those jobs. It’s all frustrating and sad. |
08-29-21, 07:05 PM | ||
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Boston, MA
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It definitely takes a special kind of person to care for dementia patients, God Bless your sister for being so kind. The aide that took my aunt to dinner at 5:00 was still there at 1:00 a.m. when I went back to get her. I assume she was working a double. When I apologized for my aunt’s behavior and told her it was out of character she said it’s not her it’s her disease which I appreciated.
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08-29-21, 07:40 PM | |
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Modify City, State of Fierce
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Tracy trying to find good care is so hard even when the person you're caring for is mentally aware. The memories for us are still so fresh.
Sending you HUGS because no matter what ...the ongoing supervision of the care is so mentally draining. Please keep us posted.
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08-30-21, 06:38 AM | |
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Ohio
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Hi Tracy,
I know how hard this is. My Dad was in a similar situation and it's heartbreaking and exhausting. He became sexually aggressive with the staff and they finally just had to keep him medicated. It was sad but seemed the only reasonable way to handle it at the time. I don't have any suggestions, others have offered some great ones. Hugs to you and your family. |
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