Hi, Debbie - if you search, you'll see that I asked a similar question a couple of years ago, so you're not alone! I just wanted to say that, after putting it off for years, in June of this year, I finally had surgery to fix my incontinence problem. I'm so glad I did! I don't know how extensive your problem is, but mine was getting to the point that I didn't want to live with it anymore. Even the littlest exertion (like shouting) could cause me to leak sometimes, but now I can do jumping jacks to my heart's content!