Somewhat OT: Is this professional behavior from a PT? - Page 2

txhsmom · 08-24-21, 05:34 AM

Maybe he's just trying to get to know you better so he will have some things to talk about with you while the two of you are working together. That doesn't bother me as much as it did you. Actually, none of those things would really bother me.

Carol

jackie7 · 08-24-21, 06:30 AM

I agree with Carol. He may have looked you up to help with his pt plan. As far as calling you lady, he may just have trouble with names. I don't think any of this is unprofessional.

Demeris · 08-24-21, 07:30 AM

Is he a native English speaker? I ask because he may be translating a term of respect that just doesn't work in English anymore.

Leonana · 08-24-21, 07:43 AM

I was thinking the same thing, that looking you up is a generational thing. It wouldn’t bother me, I would assume he wanted to know about how my job could affect me physically and he can treat me more effectively. As for lady, I would probably just correct him and ask him to call me Ms. So and So. I probably wouldn’t want him discussing me, but maybe he thought it was okay since he was your husband.

Pat58 · 08-24-21, 08:03 AM

Wouldn't it be easier for him to just ask you during your intake evaluation?

He sounds creepy.

sheepla · 08-24-21, 08:20 AM

I have to say, none of that would bother me even the slightest.

fanofladyvols · 08-24-21, 08:33 AM

Being called lady wouldn't bother me...that's easy enough to correct to Lady Vol Fan

But the other two things I would address with his supervisor even though I'm not creeped by them.

Primarily because professionalism isn't taught in schools as it should and needs to be developed.

If he knows his craft, you can help him be better by alerting him to behavior that makes some people uncomfortable or crosses lines. (The discussion with your husband should not happen, too. You're not a child at daycare who needs the teacher to talk to your father about your day

)

As a side note, this younger generation (if he's younger) looks up people immediately they come in contact with so although that wouldn't bother me ..I would prefer that happen during the intake interview. Perhaps he did it to build rapport because it's important to him to build that. I would want his supervisor to tell him that's an unnecessary step in his treatment protocol.

Vantreesta · 08-24-21, 08:39 AM

All of it would bother me too, even though I can see others' points about why it may not be unprofessional.

I am paranoid so the thought of people looking for me on the internet makes me very uncomfortable. I totally get being bad with names but I don't think calling someone lady is okay. If he doesn't remember your name, does he remember why you're there, is how I would feel. Calling you ma'am would seem more professional if he doesn't remember your name, regardless of your age. And discussing you with your husband, especially like you're not even there and within earshot, would really tick me off! And I'd be letting my husband know it too!

But do I think these things make him a bad PT? Probably not in and of themselves. I know all too well what it's like to be socially awkward and in some ways I think this may be more common in the younger generations than older ones bc of social media. (I am in no way making this a blanket statement about younger generations, just speculating that the way we communicate in the current day is different and less personal than in the past and that can produce different ways of relating to others. Just an observation, not a judgment!)

moonbeam31 · 08-24-21, 08:51 AM

If his behavior bothers you, that's all that matters! You deserve to look forward to your therapy appts, not dread them.

cailleach · 08-24-21, 10:06 AM

I think it's the way of the time these days

going on a blind date, google the name
going on a interview, google the company
interviewing for a roommate, google
first appointment, google

My thought is if you don't want people to learn about you, do a search on yourself on the internet. I don't have Facebook and can only find one place where my name shows up where I've volunteered the information and that's LinkedIn.

If you're uncomfortable with this PT, request a different one. I wished I done that decades ago. PT I had was a jerk and should have gone to the front desk to requested a different one.

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08-24-21, 05:34 AM
txhsmom VF Supporter Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Texas	Maybe he's just trying to get to know you better so he will have some things to talk about with you while the two of you are working together. That doesn't bother me as much as it did you. Actually, none of those things would really bother me. Carol

08-24-21, 06:30 AM
jackie7 Join Date: Oct 2003	I agree with Carol. He may have looked you up to help with his pt plan. As far as calling you lady, he may just have trouble with names. I don't think any of this is unprofessional.

08-24-21, 07:30 AM
Demeris Join Date: Dec 2006	Is he a native English speaker? I ask because he may be translating a term of respect that just doesn't work in English anymore.

08-24-21, 07:43 AM
Leonana Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Arizona	I was thinking the same thing, that looking you up is a generational thing. It wouldn’t bother me, I would assume he wanted to know about how my job could affect me physically and he can treat me more effectively. As for lady, I would probably just correct him and ask him to call me Ms. So and So. I probably wouldn’t want him discussing me, but maybe he thought it was okay since he was your husband. __________________ Sherry

08-24-21, 08:03 AM
Pat58 VF Supporter Join Date: May 2002 Location: Connecticut	Wouldn't it be easier for him to just ask you during your intake evaluation? He sounds creepy.

08-24-21, 08:20 AM
sheepla VF Supporter Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: OK	I have to say, none of that would bother me even the slightest. __________________ Shelia

08-24-21, 08:33 AM
fanofladyvols Join Date: May 2004 Location: Modify City, State of Fierce	Being called lady wouldn't bother me...that's easy enough to correct to Lady Vol Fan But the other two things I would address with his supervisor even though I'm not creeped by them. Primarily because professionalism isn't taught in schools as it should and needs to be developed. If he knows his craft, you can help him be better by alerting him to behavior that makes some people uncomfortable or crosses lines. (The discussion with your husband should not happen, too. You're not a child at daycare who needs the teacher to talk to your father about your day ) As a side note, this younger generation (if he's younger) looks up people immediately they come in contact with so although that wouldn't bother me ..I would prefer that happen during the intake interview. Perhaps he did it to build rapport because it's important to him to build that. I would want his supervisor to tell him that's an unnecessary step in his treatment protocol. __________________ Don't just work hard, work smart....Pat Head Summitt Never give up on your body!-- Miranda Esmonde-White Word/Guiding Principle for 2024: Embrace: embrace my faith, my family, my friends, myself, the process, the progress, the hard work, the strength program I choose, the recovery methods and rest I need, my life, the good times, and the memories of good people.

08-24-21, 08:39 AM
Vantreesta Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Snowman Land :)	All of it would bother me too, even though I can see others' points about why it may not be unprofessional. I am paranoid so the thought of people looking for me on the internet makes me very uncomfortable. I totally get being bad with names but I don't think calling someone lady is okay. If he doesn't remember your name, does he remember why you're there, is how I would feel. Calling you ma'am would seem more professional if he doesn't remember your name, regardless of your age. And discussing you with your husband, especially like you're not even there and within earshot, would really tick me off! And I'd be letting my husband know it too! But do I think these things make him a bad PT? Probably not in and of themselves. I know all too well what it's like to be socially awkward and in some ways I think this may be more common in the younger generations than older ones bc of social media. (I am in no way making this a blanket statement about younger generations, just speculating that the way we communicate in the current day is different and less personal than in the past and that can produce different ways of relating to others. Just an observation, not a judgment!) __________________ "No matter how slow you go, you are still lapping everybody on the couch." "God, please help me to be the person my dog thinks I am." "You can't run from your problems. But you'll both feel a little lighter when you get back." ~New Balance shoe ad You don't have to be fast, just keep moving forward. Note to self: You don't get to complain about things you won't work to change! Word for 2024: Accomplished; Word for 2023: Grounded; Word for 2022: Consistency; Word for 2021: Mindfulness

08-24-21, 08:51 AM
moonbeam31 Join Date: Jan 2005	If his behavior bothers you, that's all that matters! You deserve to look forward to your therapy appts, not dread them.

08-24-21, 10:06 AM
cailleach Join Date: May 2004	I think it's the way of the time these days going on a blind date, google the name going on a interview, google the company interviewing for a roommate, google first appointment, google My thought is if you don't want people to learn about you, do a search on yourself on the internet. I don't have Facebook and can only find one place where my name shows up where I've volunteered the information and that's LinkedIn. If you're uncomfortable with this PT, request a different one. I wished I done that decades ago. PT I had was a jerk and should have gone to the front desk to requested a different one.