Leslie,
I could have written your post myself! I think part of the problem is when you submit the Ebay listing and include Paypal as a form of payment, the logos for the credit cards automatically are input.
Things actually were running smoothly until this summer. I just had to wait for money orders. But this summer I had problems with 5 out of 8 sales. One woman tried to send a credit card payment through, then when I explained I couldn't accept it, she said she didn't want to inconvenience me by having to wait for a money order - and left me neutral feedback.
I write in my description, as well as my payment instructions: I accept Paypal (NON CREDIT CARD PAYMENTS ONLY). People still try to pay by credit card and when I deny the payment, with a full explanation, they still e-mail me asking why?
I try to keep my listings simple and easy to understand. I no longer accept bids from eBayers with less than a 5 rating. But, like you, I resent being charged to list my item, final value fee, and a fee for accepting payment. I use to have a premiere account, but when Paypal took their cut for money that was being refunded to me (wrong item sent), that was the last straw.
I'm interested in any answers others may have for you.
Diane