01-01-16, 06:28 PM | |
Exchange Moderator
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western NY
|
Thanks dakko! I was actually originally going to post my weight, but I decided not to--I think it just invites unhealthy comparisons amongst women. Honestly, anyone can look up a height/weight chart online to get an idea of "target" weights, but as we all know, those are imperfect--i.e., if you are a regular exerciser who has more muscle, you might be on the higher end of or even above your "ideal" weight, but still perfectly fine.
__________________
Beth aka Toaster (she/her) Follow me @YogiBethC YouTube|Instagram|Facebook And yes, I am Reviewer Dr. Beth on Amazon. |
01-01-16, 06:44 PM | ||
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: New York City
|
"Diet free zone" as defined by feminists and eating disorder recoverers
Quote:
This does not mean this is or is not my issue or issues. Your consciousness seems raised. But you do take a longer, more anti-trigger view.
__________________
Disclosures: From 2/10/12 to 2/10/13 I'd won unlimited access to Myyogaonline -Bettina "If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you"?! REALLY!! If it doesn't serve me, it doesn't save me!! |
|
01-01-16, 06:53 PM | ||
Join Date: Oct 2015
|
Quote:
I think I will just focus on fitness and forget about the numbers. |
|
01-01-16, 07:12 PM | |
Exchange Moderator
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western NY
|
I hope so...as I said, I'm a psychologist, so it's kind of my job.
(But, think as women, it should be all of our jobs! )
__________________
Beth aka Toaster (she/her) Follow me @YogiBethC YouTube|Instagram|Facebook And yes, I am Reviewer Dr. Beth on Amazon. |
01-01-16, 07:38 PM | ||
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: New York City
|
Quote:
I don't want to be on a soapbox about this and bore everybody. As far as over 45 and happy with my body? Suffice to say (baseball talk), no hits, no runs, no errors.
__________________
Disclosures: From 2/10/12 to 2/10/13 I'd won unlimited access to Myyogaonline -Bettina "If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you"?! REALLY!! If it doesn't serve me, it doesn't save me!! |
|
01-01-16, 07:59 PM | ||
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: NH
|
Quote:
I felt sluggish and tired and miserable. So while I agree that there is nothing to be gained by making our weight the key to our happiness, we're only kidding ourselves if we tell ourselves it truly doesn't matter at all. I think we can do ourselves a huge disservice, not to mention leave ourselves at higher risk of disease when we ride the "my weight doesn't matter" wagon.
__________________
Lannette See my profile for info on relationships with various video distributors. Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it? - Caroline Myss |
|
01-01-16, 08:01 PM | |
VF Supporter
Join Date: Nov 2001
|
First, I think how one see's herself isn't quite that cut and dry. It would be wonderful if everyone looked in the mirror and was happy with their body, but in the real world, it is not the case.
Body Shaming, rather directly at a person or through the media, can really play a number with a person's mind. Despite this person having a beautiful body, she will not see it, and she will not be happy with her body. It's is darn right hard to break free of the negativity that arises once a person is body shamed. It's wonderful that there are women who love their bodies and who have never been self conscious with the way they look. In fact, I admire the hell out of them, no matter what size they are. They are comfortable in their own skin and that is the way one should live their life. I was always happy with the way I looked. I embraced working out when I was 16 years old and living a fit life quickly became a passion. Then something happened that ruined my self esteem. After my second child was born, my husband told me that he was not attracted to me and that I reminded him of his mother. The person who I married and loved dearly threw out these words and it pierced my heart so deeply from that point on I was ashamed of my body. Every trip to the beach from that point on had me sitting there in a cover up, despite working out and staying fit. In Oct. I joined an online 10 week online transform you challenge. My main reason for joining was to reignite the spark that I have for working out. The death of my mother and brother within a week of each other in September really did a number on me. Even though I continued with my workouts, I felt NOTHING! I thought focusing on me would help reignite the spark. What I didn't expect was how it changed me so deeply mentally. I started focusing on the body parts that I was ashamed of. Instead of putting on my makeup and drying my hair with a robe on, I did my morning routine without anything on!!!! Throughout the 10 week period I found myself really looking at myself and for the first time in 34 years accepting and actually liking what I saw in the mirror. So much so that I wore a two piece bathing suit for the final transformation pictures, and even posted 2 of them on my main Face Book page!!! I would never have done that in the past. NEVER!!! So for the women out there who were body shamed and led to you not being happy with the way you look, spend some time focusing on you. Expose the parts that you are unhappy with and spend time really looking at it daily. Chances are you look a lot better than what you are seeing in the mirror. Chances are you will finally break free of your negative thoughts.
__________________
Laughter is the best medicine. Have you had your daily dose? Walking is Nature's Prozac! Don't let anyone judge you! It's your workout. Sylwia Don't Compare Yourself to somebody else. BE YOUR BEST! Chalene Johnson A Spark of Hope In memory of: Michael Sparkman October 11th, 2001-October 21st, 2008 Hope Fimiani August 26th, 2006-October 13th, 2008 |
01-01-16, 08:08 PM | |
Join Date: Jun 2003
|
Debbie- I am so very sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine losing two family members so close together. Many hugs to you-
Sherry
__________________
"Say you are tired and you will be. Believe you are strong and you are." (Sean O'Malley) The cat in my avatar is my sweetheart named Bonkers |
01-01-16, 08:09 PM | |
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: NH
|
I saw your pictures Debbie! You radiated pride in those pictures and looked great too. Congratulations again! I'm thrilled for you.
__________________
Lannette See my profile for info on relationships with various video distributors. Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it? - Caroline Myss |
Tags |
aging, body acceptance, body dysmorphia, diet mentality, happy with body, over 45, over 45 happy with body, self image |
|
|