Video Fitness Forum  

Go Back   Video Fitness Forum > Video Fitness Reader Forum > General Discussion

Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Old 03-19-20, 12:07 PM  
Vintage VFer
VF Supporter
 
Vintage VFer's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Exclamation "And this is why lurkers are afraid to post..."

I’ve seen this phrase here a few times lately and I find it a bit confusing (and annoying to be honest ). Apparently, this “lurker fear” is the main reason why VF has been so slow in recent years.

Now, why is it again that lurkers are afraid of posting on VF? Is it because we don’t reply to every single post every time? Is it because - heaven forbid - someone might disagree with you? Is it due to the “mean girls” core group that shuns everyone else?

I haven’t looked at the VF guidelines in a while, but I haven’t seen one that states that we all have to agree with each other all the time. It does have something about being civil with disagreements.

What kind of delicate flowers are out there that cannot handle a disagreement? In the real world we have partners, spouses, bosses and kids (especially kids) who may rarely agree with us. Do we hide away?

I believe that there are lurkers who are quite happy to enjoy this forum without posting and that is great.

If you are a lurker and afraid to post, tell us why.

If you are still afraid to post, I’ll take the blame. It’s all my fault!
__________________
Goal:250 / Done:305

"You cannot be ensnared by anyoneís dumbassery. Even your own. You are free. Always." - Jason Headley
Vintage VFer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 12:18 PM  
zoegirl
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Texas
I mostly lurk (every day) but I do occasionally post. I have never felt intimidated or disrespected or even ignored. My posts may not get a lot of responses but I attribute that to different interests or experiences, not that I am being shunned for some reason.

And you're one of my favorites, Vintage VFer.
zoegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 12:24 PM  
bzar
Exchange Moderator
 
bzar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: PalmTreeVille
I remember my very first post back when the Firm Believers forum was up and running. I had this fear that EVERYONE on the planet was reading what I wrote. I later learned that, frankly, many posts are ignored!

and alta, you are NOT on my ignore button!
__________________
~jeannine


Miyagi: Wax on, right hand. Wax off, left hand. Wax on, wax off. Breathe in through nose, out the mouth. Wax on, wax off. Don't forget to breathe, very important.
[walks away, still making circular motions with hands] ~ Pat Morita, The Karate Kid, 1984


disclosure: in the years 2002-2004 i had a professional relationship with a distributor of fitness videos; see profile.
bzar is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 12:27 PM  
cataddict
VF Supporter
 
cataddict's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Eastern VA
Quote:
Originally Posted by Vintage VFer View Post
Iíve seen this phrase here a few times lately and I find it a bit confusing (and annoying to be honest ). Apparently, this ďlurker fearĒ is the main reason why VF has been so slow in recent years.

Now, why is it again that lurkers are afraid of posting on VF? Is it because we donít reply to every single post every time? Is it because - heaven forbid - someone might disagree with you? Is it due to the ďmean girlsĒ core group that shuns everyone else?

I havenít looked at the VF guidelines in a while, but I havenít seen one that states that we all have to agree with each other all the time. It does have something about being civil with disagreements.

What kind of delicate flowers are out there that cannot handle a disagreement? In the real world we have partners, spouses, bosses and kids (especially kids) who may rarely agree with us. Do we hide away?

I believe that there are lurkers who are quite happy to enjoy this forum without posting and that is great.

If you are a lurker and afraid to post, tell us why.

If you are still afraid to post, Iíll take the blame. Itís all my fault!
Oh no, Alta, it most definitely is MY fault.
cataddict is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 12:54 PM  
Theeearn
 
Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: Colorado
Long time lurker here! Iíve been a forum member for about five years. I read the forum almost daily but only post occasionally. I suppose the reason I donít post is because I only use a few instructors and they arenít often the topic of discussion. Iíve thought about joining a check in a few times. I could talk about my workouts all day. Lord knows my family doesnít want to hear it lol. Iíve never felt intimidated. I know a lot of my posts donít require a response. Iíve learned a lot here and have found some great instructors I never would have found without VF.
Theeearn is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 12:57 PM  
sherry7899
 
Join Date: Jun 2003
Quote:
Originally Posted by Theeearn View Post
Long time lurker here! I’ve been a forum member for about five years. I read the forum almost daily but only post occasionally. I suppose the reason I don’t post is because I only use a few instructors and they aren’t often the topic of discussion. I’ve thought about joining a check in a few times. I could talk about my workouts all day. Lord knows my family doesn’t want to hear it lol. I’ve never felt intimidated. I know a lot of my posts don’t require a response. I’ve learned a lot here and have found some great instructors I never would have found without VF.
Welcome! I would love to discuss any lesser known/used instructors anytime!

All the checkins are welcoming if you decide to join one.
__________________
"Say you are tired and you will be. Believe you are strong and you are." (Sean O'Malley)

The cat in my avatar is my sweetheart named Bonkers
sherry7899 is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 01:02 PM  
Lucky Star
VF Supporter
 
Lucky Star's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: A helluva town
Another routine thread killer reporting in and no, I never took that seriously!
I just don't have the spare time I used to back when I was homeschooling. And I mostly use the same 6 or so instructors I've used since the 90s-early 2000s. I'm a videofitness dinosaur.
__________________
~ Gina ~
"Remain cheerful, for nothing destructive can pierce through the solid wall of cheerfulness." ~Sri Chinmoy
"We are so fortunate that we get to exercise!" ~Erin O'Brien
Lucky Star is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 01:06 PM  
yogapam
VF Supporter
 
yogapam's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: West coast of Canada, eh. ;)
Lol Alta & cataddict, not your fault! I agree all have a right to differing opinions, but from my perspective itís not productive or helpful when disagreements get nasty & personal. I tend to back away when threads get contentious as I donít think thereís anything to be gained from personal attacks. I donít post often in GD but I do read the threads. I generally prefer to stick to my check in where I pretty much post daily.
__________________
*~*Pam*~*

Certified Level 4 Essentrics Instructor - March 2021

Hatha YTT - 2011

Your body keeps an accurate journal regardless of what you write down.....

"Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live."
Jim Rohn

"Itís not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.Ē - Tony Robbins

Check out my Instagram account, @fitness.ficti0n.inspirati0n
yogapam is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 01:26 PM  
summer breeze
VF Supporter
 
summer breeze's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
I don't post all that often but I do read every day and post whenever I feel I have something to contribute. It doesn't stop me if no one responds or if they disagree. It's all good. I do like to read a good train wreck thread once in awhile but I know it really isn't helpful when things turn that way.
summer breeze is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-20, 01:30 PM  
Mopsy
VF Supporter
 
Mopsy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: central New York
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lucky Star View Post
Another routine thread killer reporting in and no, I never took that seriously!
I just don't have the spare time I used to back when I was homeschooling. And I mostly use the same 6 or so instructors I've used since the 90s-early 2000s. I'm a videofitness dinosaur.
A Videosaurus? Fitnasaurus? We've been discovered
__________________
Louise
Mopsy is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
lurkdom, lurkers, vf activity

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 07:08 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.3
Copyright ©2000 - 2021, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
© 2009 Video Fitness