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Old 09-17-19, 12:30 PM  
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We live in such a sin sick world that we are always judging someone. I had and have prayed I stop this. I think itís unhealthy thoughts. Iím sorry I let my thoughts get me to post in this thread. Youíre right Susan, what does it matter? If they are healthy that is more important then my thoughts on their outward appearance.
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Old 09-17-19, 12:31 PM  
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But I also have to say that Al Roker is the perfect example of what I was talking about with perception. He is still a big man, not wasting away, and he now runs marathons and feels better. He was morbidly obese and every day he now chooses not to be, which is his journey, so really it doesnít matter how anyone thinks he looks but how he thinks he looks and feels. But I think he looks great and younger than his age.
I also think Al Roker looks great, and I wonder if tytbody has the perception that he looks older is because he IS older -- he lost the weight quite a while ago, right? So the photos being compared probably have him at fairly different ages.

I also think it should be about health. H_Lo, I'm so sorry you had that reaction to this thread -- you should be so proud of yourself, feel so great and healthy!!
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As someone who has lost 120 pounds, it depressed me opening up this thread. I have to look in the mirror every day and try not to let my loose skin get to me. I was at my heaviest weight after the birth of my son almost 6 years ago. I lost 80 pounds the first year, then 20 the next year and then another 20 pounds the third year. I was in my late thirties and did this through eating better and exercise. I was exclusively doing The Firm (Benson era) for the first year then after first year it was 90% or more of doing The Firm. Unfortunately, you can only tone and firm up so much after a big weight loss. I know a lot of it has to do with genetics and not just age. It's been really hard for me having to lose all that weight only to be left with loose skin.
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I had to google al roker to recall who he was compared to before. he looks great!
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Old 09-17-19, 01:22 PM  
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I also think it should be about health. H_Lo, I'm so sorry you had that reaction to this thread -- you should be so proud of yourself, feel so great and healthy!!

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Thank you! You guys brought tears to my eyes with your kindness!!!
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Old 09-17-19, 01:34 PM  
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As someone who has lost 120 pounds, it depressed me opening up this thread. I have to look in the mirror every day and try not to let my loose skin get to me. I was at my heaviest weight after the birth of my son almost 6 years ago. I lost 80 pounds the first year, then 20 the next year and then another 20 pounds the third year. I was in my late thirties and did this through eating better and exercise. I was exclusively doing The Firm (Benson era) for the first year then after first year it was 90% or more of doing The Firm. Unfortunately, you can only tone and firm up so much after a big weight loss. I know a lot of it has to do with genetics and not just age. It's been really hard for me having to lose all that weight only to be left with loose skin.
Don't look at your loose skin, just concentrate on how you feel. I bet you feel a lot better now, are healthier, and have more fun, considering you have at least one hobby to look forward to (exercising! ) Congratulations!
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Old 09-17-19, 02:04 PM  
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I don't think, personally, that what I think of anyone's appearance should matter one whit to them. Whether they gain or lose weight, their appearance will change, and whether that change is for the better or for the worse is a matter of opinion. And mine is not important.

If they are HEALTHIER, who cares what they look like? They are living IN that body; they know what it feels like.

(Of course, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to lose weight. Not everyone who loses weight does so in a balanced, healthy, and maintainable way.)
This! Who am I to judge somebody else's aesthetics? Looks are subjective anyway.

Like, sure John Goodman (the actor) might have a few more wrinkles since he's lost weight, but he's possibly added another decade to this life, and I'm sure he feels much better. That's what really matters.

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As someone who has lost 120 pounds, it depressed me opening up this thread. I have to look in the mirror every day and try not to let my loose skin get to me. I was at my heaviest weight after the birth of my son almost 6 years ago. I lost 80 pounds the first year, then 20 the next year and then another 20 pounds the third year. I was in my late thirties and did this through eating better and exercise. I was exclusively doing The Firm (Benson era) for the first year then after first year it was 90% or more of doing The Firm. Unfortunately, you can only tone and firm up so much after a big weight loss. I know a lot of it has to do with genetics and not just age. It's been really hard for me having to lose all that weight only to be left with loose skin.
Please do not let anybody get you down! You have done an AMAZING job losing weight and I'm sure you are MUCH vibrant and healthier now. Trust and believe that most people are only seeing the fruits of your accomplishments, and not the excess skin (I know we are our own worst critics; it's hard to quiet those negative thoughts sometimes).
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As someone who has lost 120 pounds, it depressed me opening up this thread. I have to look in the mirror every day and try not to let my loose skin get to me. I was at my heaviest weight after the birth of my son almost 6 years ago. I lost 80 pounds the first year, then 20 the next year and then another 20 pounds the third year. I was in my late thirties and did this through eating better and exercise. I was exclusively doing The Firm (Benson era) for the first year then after first year it was 90% or more of doing The Firm. Unfortunately, you can only tone and firm up so much after a big weight loss. I know a lot of it has to do with genetics and not just age. It's been really hard for me having to lose all that weight only to be left with loose skin.
Congratulations on your weight loss! So few are able to achieve what you have achieved! Iím sorry that this thread made you feel depressed.
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I don't think, personally, that what I think of anyone's appearance should matter one whit to them. Whether they gain or lose weight, their appearance will change, and whether that change is for the better or for the worse is a matter of opinion. And mine is not important.

If they are HEALTHIER, who cares what they look like? They are living IN that body; they know what it feels like.

(Of course, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to lose weight. Not everyone who loses weight does so in a balanced, healthy, and maintainable way.)
Well said!
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I don't think, personally, that what I think of anyone's appearance should matter one whit to them. Whether they gain or lose weight, their appearance will change, and whether that change is for the better or for the worse is a matter of opinion. And mine is not important.

If they are HEALTHIER, who cares what they look like? They are living IN that body; they know what it feels like.

(Of course, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to lose weight. Not everyone who loses weight does so in a balanced, healthy, and maintainable way.)
Agree! For most people, purposely losing excess fat (not vanity pounds) is a good thing. They shouldn't have to wonder if people are judging them by their looks after they've worked so hard to get healthy.

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Old 09-17-19, 06:23 PM  
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As someone who has lost 120 pounds, it depressed me opening up this thread. I have to look in the mirror every day and try not to let my loose skin get to me. I was at my heaviest weight after the birth of my son almost 6 years ago. I lost 80 pounds the first year, then 20 the next year and then another 20 pounds the third year. I was in my late thirties and did this through eating better and exercise. I was exclusively doing The Firm (Benson era) for the first year then after first year it was 90% or more of doing The Firm. Unfortunately, you can only tone and firm up so much after a big weight loss. I know a lot of it has to do with genetics and not just age. It's been really hard for me having to lose all that weight only to be left with loose skin.
You have a son You accomplished so much and you improved your chances of being there for him---both in quality and quantity of life. You can go places and do things that were out of reach until you persevered. Celebrate the strength in your muscles & lungs and ignore the negative stuff. The modern world and its social media can be full of CR*P. It will tell you that you're too fat, too skinny, too smooth, too wrinkly, too bulky etc whatever. There will always be some complaint or criticism out there. So don't take advice from that crowd! Decide what thoughts make you HAPPY and don't give up one golden moment of your life to shallow observers. You have plenty of power and it all starts with keeping them out of your head and helpless

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