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https://www.emilyfonnesbeck.com/what...dy-positivity/ I agree with at least much of it, such as how it begins: Quote:
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Henry, thanks for reviving this thread. I haven't yet read the article you included, but from the links you posted, it seems much closer to what I believe. As Jackie also implied, looks just really aren't that important!!! No need to "love" how we look in the mirror or to be "thrilled" about it; it is what it is, and it's a pretty minor issue in the grand scheme of things--better to look in the mirror in the mirror and observe that you are strong, kind, generous, a good friend, etc.
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Growing up looking different smashed my self confidence
I was told by my fellow grade schoolers that my brown skin was the color of dirt.
(New England, 70s and early 80s) It took me years and years to overcome that. Going to India to visit family was also hard due to colorism imposed by years of colonialism It’s all well and good to try to live in a place of self care, but so many times we are harmed before we can even make those choices for ourselves |
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Me too, Leela; I can't imagine.
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(That was when I was growing from my teens into my twenties and my face morphed from its "baby" roundness to a more pronounced bone structure. I happen to like my face that way, thank you very much.) And Leela, so sorry to hear what you had to go through growing up in New England. I shudder to think how "socially acceptable" overt racism was only a few decades ago. |
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