Video Fitness Forum  

Go Back   Video Fitness Forum > Video Fitness Reader Forum > General Discussion

Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Old 08-05-21, 07:46 PM  
Sollamyn's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: S. Illinois
This is such a difficult time in history for making any type of meaningful plan, it seems. My brother-in-law died in March 2020 and they just had a brief outdoor funeral at the cemetery. My sister and his (adult) children really wanted to do some sort of remembrance/memorial service for him at some point, but now I don't think that will ever happen. It just seems so wrong! I know this probably doesn't help to know this, but there are others who are sharing your pain. You are not alone! ((HUGS))

I hope all goes well for a celebration of your husband's life in March.

Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the real world. *unknown*
Sollamyn is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-05-21, 08:40 PM  
Laura S.
VF Supporter
Laura S.'s Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: Raleigh, NC
Sherry - I'm so sorry for the complete tone deafness on people's part, people who should have a vested interest in celebrating Frank's life. I hope whatever happens with the celebration of his life that you can remember your good times with him. It's always hard to grieve, but this is such a strange and unsettling time on top of that.

Laura's Workout Mantras:

Something is better than nothing
The best workout is the one you will DO
Laura S. is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 07:02 AM  
Join Date: Dec 2001
(((Hugs))) to you, Sherry. I am so sorry you are dealing with these responses on top of your grief and your desire to honor Frank's life. Please know you will always be supported by your VF family.
"People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway." — Mother Teresa

"I've decided to grow old disgracefully." - Twigs
cyana is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 07:47 AM  
Join Date: Dec 2006
Sherry, I'm so sorry these people have let you and Frank down. We live in perilous times, where the distractions and entertainment and trivia of daily life steal our hearts and shift our attention away from what is truly important—other people.

I wish I could give you a big hug in person.
Demeris is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 08:40 AM  
VF Supporter
ddj's Avatar
Join Date: Oct 2008
Sherry! I've been gone for almost a year and didn't realize what you've been going through. I'm so sorry for your loss.

This pandemic has shined a spotlight on how unfeeling people can be. I've suffered no loss and I still grow angry at the disregard people have for others. So I can only imagine what it's been like for you. I'm glad you have your son and a place here to vent.

Jumping for joy is good exercise.
ddj is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 08:54 AM  
Join Date: Aug 2005
I am so sorry. Go on with your plans for the memorial.
ellaenchanted is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 09:09 AM  
VF Supporter
nyskier's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Fort Lauderdale, FL

I am so sorry to hear this. The selfishness of people in today's world is really terrible. I hope we can support you here.

"Remember that you can eat your way through any amount of exercise"-- Jillian Michaels"
"Nothing tastes as good as being fit feels."--Bita
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle
nyskier is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 09:43 AM  
Vintage VFer
VF Supporter
Vintage VFer's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2001
Sherry, I am so sorry that you are having to go through even more heartache. (((HUGS)))

If not for VF, and a few good folks I know, I would totally despair at the selfish and stupid behavior of others.
Goal:250 / Done:162

“Do something today that your future self will thank you for.”
Vintage VFer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 09:48 AM  
amoodygirl's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: NY
Oh Sherry, the older I get, the more disappointed I become in people.

I want to attend Frank's Celebration of his Life and am glad you postponed it. I kept thinking, hmmmm.... October.... this Delta variant raising its ugly head....

As I have studied in my Buddhist practices, one cannot be disappointed if one has no expectations. This is a HARD lesson and one I haven't been able to put into practice.

With that said, the people who are really there for you - and were there for Frank - will be there.

Sending you tons of hugs, kiddo.
"When ignorance screams, intelligence moves on.”

Never have I been a blue calm sea
I have always been a storm

Fleetwood Mac (Stevie Nicks)

amoodygirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-21, 11:15 AM  
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Pacific NW
I'm so sorry you are hurting. I'm glad you are able to vent here. Grief is so isolating, isn't it.
As s fellow widow, I found it is so disorienting seeing other people move on with their lives when your own life has been ripped away without warning. People do grieve in their own ways, but true colors are also revealed. (In my case what was really important to people and it seems to be money .)
Hang in there!
edensmom is offline   Reply With Quote

coronavirus, covid-19, grief

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:50 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.3
Copyright ©2000 - 2022, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
© 2009 Video Fitness