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Cher:I am so sorry to hear that about your MIL. I know how tough it was to care for DH when his body was giving out and then to watch him struggle in the hospital mentally after the two heart restarts during the surgery. I can only imagine what your SIL deals with... and it's all hard work. Glad Joseph is doing well! Darrell? Well, he's a guy, so there's that... maybe he's just struggling to find his new schedule.
Karen: DD and her hubby are doing okay. They've had their struggles adjusting to their house and marriage and some issues w/his family. I have tried to lay low to let them settle in. They are supposed to be helping me w/ my FIL's house but lately they have been absent. I get it. It is a chore, but hopefully when this intense heat alternating with massive downpours of rain passes we can make some quick progress. The house has only one small window unit (FIL got rid of the one in the living room a while back), so cooling the house is nearly impossible. You work up a sweat just standing there. The neighborhood isn't particularly safe so I can't just leave the front door open and some windows open to encourage circulation unless someone is there with me. Some things I cannot and will not do while I am there alone... like go downstairs without a phone and a friend nearby. So many details. I honestly just pick one thing (sometimes legal, sometimes monetary, sometimes medical) and try to deal with it each day. I am grateful that my MIL still has two living sisters so they are helping her salvage a few things from the mobile home and locate either a replacement home or another living arrangement. I have to work full time and my plate is overflowing as it is. Right now I'm signing a contract w/a company to replace my roof this fall. I SO hate to do this all alone, but I have no choice. Thankfully insurance is covering about 80% of it. Vannie: I am glad you were able to enjoy some time with your dad! I have been trying to be deliberate in spending time with my mom as she is only a couple of months older than my FIL and she seems to be more fragile now than six months ago. It is a struggle for me sometimes because I have a need to be alone for a bit after work (so very, very noisy in our temporary offices) and it's difficult to be patient with her as she is hard of hearing and gets annoyed at the tiniest of things. I guess it is a sensation like being trapped and yet I love her and want to be with her. I think sometimes she doesn't understand. Not sure that she should. I think it's everything all piled up and the grief is just the icing on the cake. Losing my FIL just started the whole grief process all over. Karen: Your workouts are amazing. Have you ever tried any Caroline Girvan on YouTube? JB:I hope you are staying cool! Check in: Yesterday was Epic Heat Day 3. Today was Rick Bhullar's Uplifting Walk and Cathe's Extended Chair Stretch. If you haven't tried the Uplifting Walk by Rick Bhullar, you're missing out! He doesn't verbally cue so you can enjoy the music. I love this workout. It has been a lifesaver for me when I grew tired of 1 mile walk with Nick (from Leslie Sansone). Here is the link: https://youtu.be/9Hzc30Z-TSo This probably sounds crazy, but sometimes for a brief moment during the walk, I can remember Darrell dancing at some dances with me in his (more often than not) gray suits ... and it makes me smile. Rick does a couple of steps that are like what Darrell would do when he danced.
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