05-18-18, 02:34 PM | |
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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What do you find striking about it? I can imagine a variety of possibilities.
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit |
05-18-18, 04:30 PM | |
Join Date: Oct 2007
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My parents are old - 88 and 93. They are both legally blind, very hard of hearing, and they shuffle along. My dad has had a major stroke and has very bad aphasia - he just can't find the words he wants and gets very frustrated. It's hard to see them get so debilitated and it's frightening to realize that if I live that long, I, too, will be old, debilitated, and living in a broken down body that is just a shadow of what it once was. That is life.
Here's the thing - my dad's kinda cute, and my mom's not. At all. The difference is their attitude. My dad does as much as he can. He looks for opportunities to do any little thing for someone and does it. Despite his legal blindness, weakness and the terrible aftermath of his stroke, he's pretty cheerful. When I visit, he wants to hear all about my husband and my kids. My mom is negative, self focused, and self pitying. Not surprisingly, she's miserable. It's a lot harder to visit with her. She's been that kind of personality as long as I've known her. She's as miserable as she wants to be. As they say, we can't always control what happens to us, but we can always control how we react to life. We choose our attitudes. We decide if we are going to be someone people look forward to visiting, or someone people visit out of duty. |
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aging, cancer, fibroids, menopausal weight gain, menopause, menopot, old talk, over 50 |
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