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Old 05-19-20, 11:14 AM  
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Fit-Shaming?

So, singer Adele recently lost weight. I saw a few articles saying that some her fans are shaming her for this. They claim she has somehow deserted them for losing weight.

This CNN article goes into more depth:

"Adele lost weight, are we allowed to praise that?"

https://www.cnn.com/2020/05/06/enter...oss/index.html

Is it a case of damned if you do, damned if you don't?
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Old 05-19-20, 11:19 AM  
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Is it a case of damned if you do, damned if you don't?
Absolutely.

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Old 05-19-20, 11:36 AM  
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But this is nothing new.

Women are always criticized about their body size.

Too thin (eat a sandwich)
Too muscular (ew - manly)
Too fat (so many rude comments...)

It's terrible.

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Old 05-19-20, 11:47 AM  
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But this is nothing new.

Women are always criticized about their body size.

Too thin (eat a sandwich)
Too muscular (ew - manly)
Too fat (so many rude comments...)

It's terrible.

Eica
I don't recall any backlash when Chris Pratt transformed his physique. Maybe because he did it for a film role?




It's sad that Adele's shaming is mostly from women.
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Old 05-19-20, 11:55 AM  
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It's sad that Adele's shaming is mostly from women.
Very sad. Women can be brutal to one another in so many ways.

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Old 05-19-20, 12:41 PM  
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I will never forget when people who were offended by Lady Gaga's Super Bowl halftime performance called her fat. (Of course others said she was summoning Satan but we won't go there.) I wish I were her kind of fat.
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Old 05-19-20, 01:37 PM  
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It is considered wrong to say: Too fat. It is considered right to say: You need to eat something. I do not understand why it is OK to criticize thin people.

I learned when I was 16 that my skeletal structure, waaaaay left on the bell curve, looks awful with even just 5 or 6 pounds of excess fat. I took that off and kept it off.

I learned when I was in my 40s, by reading on forums, that I'm not even a "real woman". Wow! That was a surprise. I thank all of "them" for letting me know that I am not real. I am glad they made me face the truth about myself, and I know that at least I serve a purpose by letting them compare themselves, then be thankful that they don't "look like a twig" the way I do.

I honestly don't care what "they" think about how I look. I prove this daily by never wearing makeup or nail polish and by letting my hair go to a bad color mix of gray and mousy brown thanks to us remodeling both bathrooms; not taking dye into our now-expensive bathrooms and not paying for a pro job. It is the double-standard that annoys the crud out of me because it is irrational. This annoyance, I know, is my problem. Just having a temper tantrum about it at the moment.
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Old 05-19-20, 05:33 PM  
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Yes, people can be vicious! Women can be especially brutal. If she feels good, then who cares what other people think!
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Old 05-19-20, 05:38 PM  
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I had a coworker look me up and down then say “Oh my God, you’re so skinny”. She had a disgusted look on her face. Could I say the same to her just changing the word “skinny” for “fat”?!?! Hell no because it’s unacceptable. I’m lean and strong...thank you! I can’t stand seeing women get bashed for ANYTHING!! We need to uphold, support and respect each other, period. And if Adele wants to do anything with her body it’s her choice. Yup, temper tantrum here too. What are we teaching our daughters?!?! Makes me crazy. Sorry.
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Old 05-19-20, 07:45 PM  
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Is it a case of damned if you do, damned if you don't?
You know it! When I was younger and 30 pounds heavier, I got the "you have such a pretty face, you'd be stunning if you lost some weight" treatment from multiple people including my own mother. After I lost weight, my mother lamented that my face wasn't as pretty anymore.

I laugh about it now, but at the time (in my early 20s) it really messed with my self-esteem.
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