05-19-20, 11:14 AM | |
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Join Date: Nov 2001
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Fit-Shaming?
So, singer Adele recently lost weight. I saw a few articles saying that some her fans are shaming her for this. They claim she has somehow deserted them for losing weight.
This CNN article goes into more depth: "Adele lost weight, are we allowed to praise that?" https://www.cnn.com/2020/05/06/enter...oss/index.html Is it a case of damned if you do, damned if you don't?
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05-19-20, 01:37 PM | |
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: Texas
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It is considered wrong to say: Too fat. It is considered right to say: You need to eat something. I do not understand why it is OK to criticize thin people.
I learned when I was 16 that my skeletal structure, waaaaay left on the bell curve, looks awful with even just 5 or 6 pounds of excess fat. I took that off and kept it off. I learned when I was in my 40s, by reading on forums, that I'm not even a "real woman". Wow! That was a surprise. I thank all of "them" for letting me know that I am not real. I am glad they made me face the truth about myself, and I know that at least I serve a purpose by letting them compare themselves, then be thankful that they don't "look like a twig" the way I do. I honestly don't care what "they" think about how I look. I prove this daily by never wearing makeup or nail polish and by letting my hair go to a bad color mix of gray and mousy brown thanks to us remodeling both bathrooms; not taking dye into our now-expensive bathrooms and not paying for a pro job. It is the double-standard that annoys the crud out of me because it is irrational. This annoyance, I know, is my problem. Just having a temper tantrum about it at the moment. |
05-19-20, 05:38 PM | |
Join Date: Jan 2016
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I had a coworker look me up and down then say “Oh my God, you’re so skinny”. She had a disgusted look on her face. Could I say the same to her just changing the word “skinny” for “fat”?!?! Hell no because it’s unacceptable. I’m lean and strong...thank you! I can’t stand seeing women get bashed for ANYTHING!! We need to uphold, support and respect each other, period. And if Adele wants to do anything with her body it’s her choice. Yup, temper tantrum here too. What are we teaching our daughters?!?! Makes me crazy. Sorry.
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05-19-20, 07:45 PM | |
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Seattle, WA
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You know it! When I was younger and 30 pounds heavier, I got the "you have such a pretty face, you'd be stunning if you lost some weight" treatment from multiple people including my own mother. After I lost weight, my mother lamented that my face wasn't as pretty anymore.
I laugh about it now, but at the time (in my early 20s) it really messed with my self-esteem. |
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