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08-01-14, 06:47 AM | |
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You either have a thigh gap or you don't, depending on your anatomy and how you pose. I can get a thigh gap just by sticking out my butt. That's the secret of those before and after pics for body wraps.
Would anyone think it was cute or funny if someone said big noses are for elephants? Then why put people down for anything else they were born with? I miss the days when we weren't allowed to criticize other people's bodies on VF.
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She must have a thigh gap from all the back pedaling. |
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08-01-14, 08:23 AM | |
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I am not quite sure why I am responding to you, EnglishIvy, since you've announced you're bowing out of this discussion (after tossing some grenades in), but maybe because I really want to respond to some of your ideas.
[QUOTE=EnglishIvy;2431444]I knew there would be polar views on this topic, and I'm happy to agree to disagree. IMHO, personal responsibility is a lost art. As mothers and sisters and wives, we have a powerful influence over our daughters and the up and coming generation. Every time you declare yourself less valuable because of your thighs or breast size, you make that judgement against all women. The chain gets a link longer on your dime.>> I can agree with this. Women do perpetuate this problem. <<I have coached young (female) athletes and can tell you that challenging them to something outside themselves does far more for them than "sensitivity" /focusing on their perceived flaws. They want to feel empowered and they want to feel like they are on a team for the greater good. You can tell them that it doesn't really matter what they look like and it will go right past them. Tell them that their team mate or little sister is counting on them to hold the line, and they get a sense of community and protection. >> Okay, but what you told them in this thread is that they are failures of humanity. <<So if some people find it politically incorrect to say you have a responsibility to the world around you and for the ideas you perpetuate, I can live with that.>> I don't think anybody is disagreeing with that idea. <<I stand by my earlier post and make no apologies for the content. I am sorry if I touched on anyone's painful spots though. >> Oh, so a non-apology apology. <<Women can be very cruel to each other in their competition to be the most adored. >> Again, agreed. <<But body digs are tolerated and encouraged even here.>> I would even agree with this, too. And it does bother me. << People who have such an obsession with being adored that they'll do any stupid thing to get it have as much responsibility in their misery as the perpetrators. Seriously, there's an element of self-absorption and shallowness that allows this junk to stick.... If you can't get past the "who thinks I'm pretty" level of maturity, then you fail the humanity test and that's on you. >> Hold on, now. The need to feel attractive and desirable is a basic human drive. It is hard-wired into us and it part of mating and reproduction, it is the thing that keeps our species going. It is a basic human need. And we're talking about mainly young women, trying to find their place in the world, with hormones raging, being bombarded with crazy messages. I accept that there are shallow, vain narcissists in the world, sure. But young girls with body dysmorphia, eating disorders or even just low body-esteem because they're overweight and feel they don't measure up ARE victims. It takes time and a lot of emotional work to free oneself from that stuff. |
08-01-14, 12:47 PM | |
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I work with a lot of young males, and let me tell you, they do hear and read this stuff and judge their potential girlfriends by these standards. Of course it's superficial and immature, but that's the phase of life they're in. I really don't blame the young girls (the victims) for wanting to meet these standards. Many feel they must in order to have a decent social life.
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