02-04-03, 04:21 PM | |
Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Utah
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I'm an exercising mom!
I homeschool my boys and consider being their mom a full time job which keeps me very busy BUT if and when I don't take the time to exercise I am also a very busy and irritable mom. It happened just a few months ago. I need some way to release my stress and have some sort of accomplishment to be proud of at the end of the day. So a big reason for exercise is FOR my family...it doesn't take away from my family.
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02-04-03, 04:33 PM | |
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Join Date: Apr 2002
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Just my opinion. . .
She may have realized that she doesn't have the discipline that you do. It's impressive to see someone attain a very healthy body when they aren't working out in a group atmosphere. Not many people can do it.
Her embarrassment may have come out in her nasty comments. Don't let her get to you. |
02-04-03, 04:39 PM | |
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: PA
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You are not alone
Yes, I loaned a co-worker one of my fav vids. She thanked me but a month later after no further discussion, I asked if she had time to try it & had she enjoyed it. Too busy & she would return it, didn't look like her cup of tea. OK, I said, no problem. It took another month to return it.
Another co-worker asked if I knew anything about yoga. I loaned her my Yoga for Weight Loss w/Suzanne Deason. After 2 weeks & no discussion, I asked what she thought of it. No time - too busy - she just can't be that selfish & hog the TV - her husband likes reality TV. She returned it. This last one - my sister. She is somewhat overweight. She has a very high-powered job & travels a lot. I said to her the other day - guess what I did? I walked 2 miles today at home in front of the TV with my Leslie Sansone video. Her reply - that doesn't sound like fun. Well, I went on for a minute about how it felt like I was in a real exercise class but I didn't have to drive to a gym. And the weather report didn't bother me - I can still get a great workout. I could tell she thought I was silly. Nevermind - we moved onto another subject. I'm sorry these people ridiculed you. I think it was a very nice thing that you did. The people here at VF are proud of you & are glad you are here with us in this little community. I have "met" many nice people on this site & have tried many videos that I would not have considered 3 years ago. Wishing you a nice day. |
02-04-03, 04:44 PM | |
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Tennessee
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Well, that was interesting
My, my, what a special and unique way your coworker has of expressing her gratitude for the help you were kind enough to offer after she asked you for it. How lovely that she was considerate enough to not only promptly return what you generously offered her, but was able to phrase her appreciation so delightfully. Not only that, but I'm touched by the way she has continued to offer little sweet, endearing expressions of continued appreciation to remind you how much your help meant to her. Truly, you are blessed to work with such a glowing ray of sunshine. She must brighten the day of all who come near her. People like her make life worth living, do they not?
But, having said that, I know you would not want to tax her loving, warm personality any further by requiring her to go to such exhausting lengths trying to express her deep regard for you and your generosity anymore. For that reason, I think you are right to try to avoid her for a while. After all, you wouldn't want her to tire herself out with any more of these grand gestures of appreciation, would you?? :rolleyes:
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02-04-03, 04:50 PM | |
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Arlington, VA
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me, too
I get the same "dissection" at work, too. It's not really mean spirited, though. They all want to know what exactly I eat, and they hate it when I tell them that it isn't just food---you must exercise, too. Meanwhile, they are eating either frozen dinners, take out greasy food, or something similar. I have to admit that they get upset when I don't partake of junk food during going away lunches, holiday bashes, etc. Don't let it get you down. That coworker who borrowed your tape probably knew she hadn't the gumption to stick with it so she had to blame someone other than herself. YOU became the culprit because you just know that she couldn't face her own shortcomings and lack of discipline. Pity her---she's obviously in denial and is small minded.
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02-04-03, 05:19 PM | ||
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: San Jose, California
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Re: Just my opinion. . .
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Unfortunately, a lot of woman are like that. They're always looking for plausibly deniable ways to stick pins in other women. They'll use any way they're different from you as ammunition. I don't know what to do about her, but don't let her comments get to you. |
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02-04-03, 05:31 PM | |
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Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: Colorado Springs
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Maybe she was ridiculed at home.
I wonder if the woman ran into some resistance from her own family members and projected it onto you. I don't blame you for being offended, but it may have had nothing to do with you.
Next time you find an article about the benefits of weight lifting for women, leave it out on your desk where you know she'll see it. You won't need to say a word, but she'll get the message. As for the selfishness thing. I struggle with that myself. I feel guilty about the time that exercise takes away from other things. My DH isn't openly hostile, but he doesn't completely approve. This forum provides a wonderful outlet to those of us who have this unique hobby when the rest of the world doesn't quite get it.
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