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I never thought of Loft as young women's sizing. I'm always psyched when I find one of their pieces at Goodwill b/c they tend to fit me really well.
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I don't mean to sound very cynical, but I suppose that we'll hear more about psychological health when more people will spend lots of money to try to acquire it, and many of the approaches sold will be psychologically questionable. Before that day, if it ever arrives, suppose that I had horrible psychological health, some Great Body, and an abstemiously "clean" diet--people would laud me for how disciplined, inspirational, and attractive I was. In fact, a good portion of the "fitness" world relies on promoting suboptimal psychological health. If I tell my friend how ugly she is, my friend will probably be shocked and upset, but if I tell myself how ugly I am, the friendly fitness world offers multiple solutions for changing how I look (and not how I see), with a bonus tape measure if I buy in the next 30 minutes. I also didn't quite mean to "promote" my own thread, but this thread on "old talk" (to which cataddict has posted) started for topically related reasons. Edited to add: I wasn't thinking of "old talk" when I chose my current signature, but it's relevant. Because my signature may change (and this post won't otherwise preserve a signature), I'll quote my current one here. Quote:
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit Last edited by hch; 05-17-18 at 11:08 AM. Reason: added final part |
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05-17-18, 01:47 PM | |
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If you google search something like, "meaning of velveteen rabbit being 'real,' there are a lot of different reflections on what it means. I found it interesting. Here are links to a few:
https://www.bustle.com/articles/9903...ves-to-be-real http://www.insightfulinnovations.com...-vulnerability http://restlessimaginations.blogspot...velveteen.html |
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This "Real" can intepreted in multiple ways. I wanted to use this part as my signature just after I first read it--several years ago, online, at this "Celebration of Women Writers" page with illustrations on the website of the UPenn Digital Library. (I'd known about "The Velveteen Rabbit" since childhood, but I'd actually never read it, read any summaries of it, or even watched any animated adaptations of it; I knew only a little about the initial premise and didn't know how the story ends.) By that time, I distinctly noticed what the Skin Horse said. It's quite unlike other, louder ways of looking at the human body. They tell us that we (and most people!) are probably ugly except to people who don't "understand." Don't you realize that your A is too skinny, your B is too fat, your C is too muscular, and your D is otherwise oddly built? At that time, I wasn't thinking particularly of becoming "very shabby" with age, but I've seen more about "old talk" lately. In fact, the title of this thread reminded me of this line: "Of what use was it to be loved and lose one's beauty and become Real if it all ended like this?" Even if I weren't thinking about age, I suppose that most of us grow older anyway. In fact, you readers are already Real--whether you like the fact or not, whether you already knew it or not--and even in a world where velveteen rabbits probably don't talk to Skin Horses or wish to be Real, I will insist that "you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." I'm thinking of continuing this post later: another member's signature continues in this vein, but I'll have to think about how to write this post.
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit |
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