How soon is too soon? - Page 3

bzar · 10-04-20, 08:17 PM

((((((Susan)))))))

Susan, i have "known" you for a really long time on this board, and i feel the sadness in losing your mom.

i haven't read all of the replies, but if you have access to employee assistance program for counseling from your employer, please see if you can get an appointment for bereavement. consider seeing your primary care physician or calling him/her to get a referral. professional mental health care is covered under most medical plans. i'm sure there's also a support group of survivors of loved ones who took their life that perhaps your doctor could refer you to.

my mom passed away last year from cancer, and that alone was difficult for us. however, your situation is doubly difficult due to the circumstances and unknown pain she was going through.

Diana3271 · 10-04-20, 08:41 PM

{{{Susan}}} I have no words of advice. Just sending you love and lifting you up in prayer.

Susan H · 10-04-20, 09:32 PM

Susan, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom! I pray for peace and healing for you and your family. Hugs!

SEV · 10-04-20, 10:00 PM

Susan, I'm deeply sorry you are going through this! I want to echo what others have said, take one day at a time. An emotional tragedy is physically draining.

Hugs to you.

JackieB · 10-04-20, 10:23 PM

Susan I am so sorry.

Sand · 10-04-20, 10:30 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. There is no protocol for grief. I have found it very helpful in trying times, to be active in groups where I can let go as much of whatever I'm carrying.

I have found Melody Beattie's work to be helpful in my life. She created a group for grief. https://thegriefclub.net/members/

yogapam · 10-04-20, 11:28 PM

Susan I am so very sorry!

poohpeggy · 10-05-20, 12:15 AM

Stop beating yourself up.
Your mom ended her life for the simple reason she was too tired too fight. She is now finally resting in peace. I only can assume this from what I have seen myself.
It’s not your fault .
Live your life for you. All mothers want their offspring to be happy.
Your moms actions are not your fault.
Do any workout you can.
Even if it’s not what is on your the day before or if all your exercise clothes are dirty.
Just do it.
Do it again the next day.

This day maybe hard , however the next day may not be !!

MariC · 10-05-20, 05:31 AM

((((Susan)))). I am so sorry for what you are going through.
Prayers & thoughts are with you and all of your loved ones

Maric

suzanne63 · 10-05-20, 07:52 AM

Hi I am sorry you lost your mom. I took long walks and tried to keep busy after my mom died and tried to have my life as normal as possible. I was very sad and exercise did help me feel a little better. You are in my prayers

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10-04-20, 08:17 PM
bzar Exchange Moderator Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: PalmTreeVille	((((((Susan))))))) Susan, i have "known" you for a really long time on this board, and i feel the sadness in losing your mom. i haven't read all of the replies, but if you have access to employee assistance program for counseling from your employer, please see if you can get an appointment for bereavement. consider seeing your primary care physician or calling him/her to get a referral. professional mental health care is covered under most medical plans. i'm sure there's also a support group of survivors of loved ones who took their life that perhaps your doctor could refer you to. my mom passed away last year from cancer, and that alone was difficult for us. however, your situation is doubly difficult due to the circumstances and unknown pain she was going through. __________________ ~jeannine Miyagi: Wax on, right hand. Wax off, left hand. Wax on, wax off. Breathe in through nose, out the mouth. Wax on, wax off. Don't forget to breathe, very important. [walks away, still making circular motions with hands] ~ Pat Morita, The Karate Kid, 1984 disclosure: in the years 2002-2004 i had a professional relationship with a distributor of fitness videos; see profile.

10-04-20, 08:41 PM
Diana3271 Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Carolina	{{{Susan}}} I have no words of advice. Just sending you love and lifting you up in prayer. __________________ I started my most recent weight loss journey January 2008. I lost 1/2 of my starting body weight and entered into maintenance May 2011. Now the real work begins! You can fight it, or do what you've got to do to get it done. The choice is yours. ~Diana You have the rest of your life to get old. Stay young, as long as you can. ~Diana 10 Pound Slimdown Xtreme Graduate 02/12 Insanity Graduate - I actually survived! LM Combat 02/13 21 Day Fix Survivor! 6/14 Diana

10-04-20, 09:32 PM
Susan H VF Supporter Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Oklahoma	Susan, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom! I pray for peace and healing for you and your family. Hugs! __________________ Susan “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up" —Thomas Edison “Just because you’re not sick doesn’t mean you’re healthy.” — Author Unknown

10-04-20, 10:00 PM
SEV Join Date: Sep 2009	Susan, I'm deeply sorry you are going through this! I want to echo what others have said, take one day at a time. An emotional tragedy is physically draining. Hugs to you.

10-04-20, 10:23 PM
JackieB VF Supporter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Minnesota	Susan I am so sorry. __________________ Jackie Certified Essentrics Instructor, Level 4---February 2017 Yoga Tune Up Roll Model Method Practitioner---December 2021 "Movement is a privilege. You don't have to exercise. You get to exercise. Visit a person whose mobility is severely limited, and you'll appreciate the distinction. Do what you can, count yourself lucky, heal yourself in the process." Essentrics Colorado

10-04-20, 10:30 PM
Sand Join Date: May 2015 Location: Texas!	I am so sorry for your loss. There is no protocol for grief. I have found it very helpful in trying times, to be active in groups where I can let go as much of whatever I'm carrying. I have found Melody Beattie's work to be helpful in my life. She created a group for grief. https://thegriefclub.net/members/

10-04-20, 11:28 PM
yogapam VF Supporter Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: West coast of Canada, eh. ;)	Susan I am so very sorry! __________________ **~Pam~** Certified Level 4 Essentrics Instructor - March 2021 Hatha YTT - 2011 Your body keeps an accurate journal regardless of what you write down..... "Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live." Jim Rohn "It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” - Tony Robbins Check out my Instagram account, @fitness.ficti0n.inspirati0n

10-05-20, 12:15 AM
poohpeggy Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: michigan	Stop beating yourself up. Your mom ended her life for the simple reason she was too tired too fight. She is now finally resting in peace. I only can assume this from what I have seen myself. It’s not your fault . Live your life for you. All mothers want their offspring to be happy. Your moms actions are not your fault. Do any workout you can. Even if it’s not what is on your the day before or if all your exercise clothes are dirty. Just do it. Do it again the next day. This day maybe hard , however the next day may not be !!

10-05-20, 05:31 AM
MariC Join Date: Nov 2001	((((Susan)))). I am so sorry for what you are going through. Prayers & thoughts are with you and all of your loved ones Maric

10-05-20, 07:52 AM
suzanne63 Join Date: Jan 2011	Hi I am sorry you lost your mom. I took long walks and tried to keep busy after my mom died and tried to have my life as normal as possible. I was very sad and exercise did help me feel a little better. You are in my prayers