Off-Topic What would you do.....

[Lilypad]

If your 13 year old comes to you and tells you they found a few naked photos of one of your friends on your husband/her dads phone what would you do?

[jusca]

How old is the nude friend? If a minor, I'd report my spouse to the police.

If it's an adult nude friend, then I'd have a talk with the spouse about a divorce. I don't tolerate infidelity as I am pretty open about some things as long as it isn't hidden and we've previously agreed on the boundaries of the relationship. Nude pictures of my friends and family are well beyond my acceptable boundaries. I'm a little more open than most on some things but I have my limits. I'm not married at the moment either fyi.

[Lilypad]

Thanks for responding. She is an adult friend of mine. Well actually was a friend of mine.

[txhsmom]

Merciful heavens, it's time to have a serious talk with husband and be prepared to hire a lawyer.

Carol

[Lilypad]

Oh I already confronted him and of course he’s denying it. I confronted her as well. Then her husband called me and wanted to know what was going on. My guess is that she told him because she thought I was going to. What’s really sad about the whole thing is our youngest daughter and their youngest daughters are like little BFF’s. He’s saying that the pictures where of other naked random pics of woman than his buddies send him as jokes. I am too old for this ****.

[txhsmom]

Originally Posted by Lilypad

Oh I already confronted him and of course he’s denying it. I confronted her as well. Then her husband called me and wanted to know what was going on. My guess is that she told him because she thought I was going to. What’s really sad about the whole thing is our youngest daughter and their youngest daughters are like little BFF’s. He’s saying that the pictures where of other naked random pics of woman than his buddies send him as jokes. I am too old for this ****.

I am so sorry! Even if what he says is true, he should have deleted those pictures.

Counseling is an option. My husband (now ex) was not open to it, so we didn't try that.

Carol

[suzannaerin]

Originally Posted by Lilypad

Oh I already confronted him and of course he’s denying it. I confronted her as well. Then her husband called me and wanted to know what was going on. My guess is that she told him because she thought I was going to. What’s really sad about the whole thing is our youngest daughter and their youngest daughters are like little BFF’s. He’s saying that the pictures where of other naked random pics of woman than his buddies send him as jokes. I am too old for this ****.

What you decide to do is your choice but you should protect yourself, by that I mean financially and otherwise. And your kids.

He needs to come clean with you and that should be non negotiable. His reason sounds like malarkey to me. If he has strayed, get an std test, because she might not be the first or only one.

Having your daughter find the picture is horrifying. Especially at that age. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

And remember, you did nothing wrong, this is about him.

[shoegoddess]

Originally Posted by txhsmom

Merciful heavens, it's time to have a serious talk with husband and be prepared to hire a lawyer.

Carol

100% agree.

[Dabbadooey]

Originally Posted by Lilypad

If your 13 year old comes to you and tells you they found a few naked photos of one of your friends on your husband/her dads phone what would you do?

He would be packing his bags.

[Lucky Star]

I'd be both devastated and hurt, that's for sure. And furious that my child was a part of it as well.

I can't advise you but I wish you all the best and I hope things work out, eventually, to your satisfaction. ((hugs))