06-22-20, 09:26 AM | |
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Snowman Land :)
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Our friend's sister was supposed to get married in Mexico several years ago and kids were not invited. Hubby and I were their only option to keep the kids for a week but it would have meant I would have either had to take the week off work or get special permission to work remotely since they live about an hour away from us. The engagement ended up being broken and there was no wedding but I thought it seemed insensitive of the bride to expect her brother to attend but not allow her niece and nephew to go as well.
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06-22-20, 12:10 PM | |
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Atlantic Canada
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In some cases I think people choose destination weddings because they're more convenient for guests - for example, when the couple lives in a very expensive place that isn't anywhere near either of their families. I think in a lot of cases people are opting for them now when they start wedding planning and get overwhelmed and just want to buy a package to avoid an exhausting year making ten thousand superficial decisions. I also wonder if there aren't cases where people don't want a huge wedding but also don't want to feel bad about excluding people, so they opt for the destination wedding knowing it will effectively shrink the guest list while delegating the difficult decisions to other people. Because I think most couples are reasonable enough to realize attending a destination wedding is extremely inconvenient and impractical for most people.
But not all couples! In one of the most clueless examples I've ever seen, a friend of my sister had her wedding already planned and scheduled to take place in our hometown. About three months before it was supposed to happen she suddenly decided her dream was to have a destination wedding, which they hastily booked. We're not from a wealthy area, so this put all of her guests - who had already RSVP'd - in a really awkward position. Everyone but the bride's and groom's immediate families canceled. Every guest. Although they initially tried to figure out how to make it work, even the bridesmaids and groomsmen, all broke recent university grads, had to bow out. It was a bit of a trainwreck. |
07-08-20, 08:40 PM | |
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: North Texas
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Personally, I can’t fathom having a destination wedding now or a year from now. Maybe it’s because I’m cheap and wouldn’t want to lose my deposit if COVID stuff changes for the not so good.
At any rate, friends of ours had one last year. It was actually a renewal of vows. They lost their only child tragically and that was the big reason we said yes before hearing where it was. We Also went because we hadn’t had a vacation without kids in nearly 20 years, I missed Mexico, and they were in a position to pay all expenses for everyone they invited that couldn’t. We were floored as we were strapped for cash initially, but karma came through and DH got a bonus that covered it almost exactly so we didn’t want to take advantage or anything. There were at least fifty other people there, family and friends from Australia, US and Canada. It was beautiful and very much needed. We also stopped for ourselves in New Orleans visiting ZERO family which was also much needed. I wanted a destination wedding. Alone. Me and my soon to be husband. Outside near the ocean. It didn’t work out that way and we got married in a literal barber shop where the owner was a JOP. I’d say it’s sad, but nah it still cracks me up. I told my daughter have a destination wedding, it’s for you! Don’t be angry or upset at those who can’t come. Or elope. Or have a big wedding, but remember don’t be upset if a friend can’t afford to be in your wedding. I have no idea what she’ll do, she’s type A but also spontaneous at times LOL. STILL, now seems like the oddest time to plan a destination wedding. Two weddings we were suppose to go to were canceled after being postponed a few times this spring. The two couples just had small ceremonies instead.
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