07-12-10, 08:42 AM | |
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: New Jersey
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Wow, I'm sorry to all the gals that have had to put up with the put downs Makes me feel lucky. Here I am, feeling way out of shape, on top of having the post preggy belly (that looked like one of you gals cats could have scratched up), and he still gives me compliments every day
Now, if only he would clean up more....or, um, at all really would be an improvement
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07-12-10, 08:52 AM | |
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Tampa, FL
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I actually had a boyfriend once that was completely obsessed over his own body and looks. He even cut his own hair because he said that nobody could do it right. He was constantly looking at his stomach in the mirror and saying his face looked fat in pictures, it seriously made me nuts. After many months of having to reassure him and build up his confidence, he started on my looks and my body. So happy that ended, it was exhausting.
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07-12-10, 09:37 AM | |
Join Date: Jun 2004
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I most certainly have my own issues in this department. I had a very abusive/controlling BF who picked apart every aspect of my physical (and mental/emotional/intellectual) self, and I didn't think there was anything wrong with me then. About a year after I FINALLY left him, my face started breaking out and scarring badly. I ran into him somewhere, and the first words out of his mouth were, "Oh my god, what happened to your face??!" Of course, he was stalking me, and there were other issues, so I slapped him with a restraining order shortly after. To this day, however, that is the only thing I hear, and it has taken its toll on me in an extreme way. Considering that my face has only become worse and worse since then, I can't help but imagine that comment coming out of the mouth of every person who sees me. There is just no excuse for that kind of behavior, but I guess breaking us down is what these people have in mind. For some reason, because he was mean, I have this sick, twisted view that he was the only person being honest with me.
Anyway, just a couple of weeks ago, my dad found out that his top teeth are in dire condition. My mom was trying to convince him to save his teeth by having them worked on for the next few years (which she has done herself). He chose instead to have them pulled and have dentures put in. In classic dad form, his only comment to her about it was, "If you don't like me this way, you know what to do it about." That, to me, is the attitude we all need to take. It was only a funny comment, but it had a pretty profound affect on me, considering what I've been going through. I'm still upset, but, really, if a person can't accept us as we are, what in the freaking he$$ are we doing with them?????? |
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