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This. I remember DH and FIL once having a conversation that included critique of each other's gut/girth ---it was absolutely appalling They were completely natural in their conversation and it never occurred to either to have hurt feelings. As far as they were concerned, they were stating facts and there was no emotional baggage attached to it. That being said, most successful husbands know the safe answer when women ask for body assessment.The answer often doesn't come naturally but self-preservation does Lol Your neighbor sounds like he flunked basic training but he may just be a flunkie and not malevolent. Keep working on those arms so that you can address him with a convincing wedgie should he offer any more of his "honesty" in the future
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07-15-20, 05:58 PM | |
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Location: Boston, MA
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You guys are are the best. I’ve read everyone of your replies and truly appreciate them all.
I know my arms don’t look good and I’m very self conscious about them but when I’m out at 6:30 am on an empty beach minding my business, I just want to be myself and be comfortable (even in a tank top if that’s what I choose) without being insulted (I’m pretty sure he was looking at my arms when he said it). The funny thing about this neighbor is my dog never liked him. When we got her three years ago she actually came between me and him once (he’s the type that comes too close when he’s talking to you). I swear if I didn’t pull her back she would have bit him. He can’t stand that she doesn’t like him either because supposedly all dogs love him but he can’t win her over even with treats. The dog senses something about him I suppose.
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07-16-20, 05:02 AM | |
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My first thought was I would've smacked him with my paddle!!
Dogs are smart animals was my second thought. Smarter than most men, obviously. Good for you for getting back out there! I had spinal surgery in October and gained almost 10 lbs and lost alot of my upper body strength and tone as well. I'm still slowly regaining my strength and it's been 9 months. If someone would have said that to me at any point in my life I would have cried, but especially after surgery when I was already well aware of what I looked like. He doesn't deserve the time of day and I wouldn't worry about how that might affect your relationship with this couple. Maybe his wife doesn't like him either! Keep working at it, the strength will come back! |
07-16-20, 05:56 AM | |
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: NY
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I'm so sorry that fool made such offensive and disgusting comments. Bet he wouldn't have said that to a man!
With that said, a little story. When we moved back from San Diego, with the move, job search, house search, my fitness went temporarily down the tubes. I put on some weight, I wasn't muscular as I usually was, etc. The family had an 85th birthday party for my father-in-law. One of the guests, longtime friends of my in-laws, came over to me and said, "Oh my god - what happened to sexy Diane? You got fat!" I was so offended, so humiliated - I cried and went home. Fast forward 2 months - the same family friend was running like a madwoman for a train on Long Island and was hit by the train - killed instantly. I'm ashamed to say I still don't feel sad about it. But that's my issue. When my mother-in-law and I were talking about the whole thing, I said to her, jokingly, "See - this is what happens when you insult someone unjustly. Karma gets you. Just remember that."
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