OT - I need a good comeback line

[sugar rose]

Originally Posted by Gams

My feelings were hurt and I felt like crying.

Gams, I completely sympathize. Like Usia, I too am "appalled at the general lack of civility nowadays." Thanks to all who have posted for their good advice and moral support.

[Gams]

I think I was upset because I was so surprised. Normally if someone is playing a machine and they walk away from the machine, they tip the chair against the machine to indicate they are coming back. Also, I thought he might have been just watching his wife’s purse for her but didn’t want to hold it on his lap. I wasn’t expecting such a strong reaction from him, I guess.

[Getfit]

I live in Las Vegas and I agree most people do turn their chair over or put an ashtray in the chair when they are coming back but if someone is their watching it they might not just leaves Ince someone is watching it.

He was just downright mean and the best thing you could have done was walk away but me while I was walking I would have said "your mother should have swallowed" I remember a comedian saying that and I use it every now and again.

[Taiga]

Originally Posted by Gams

............ I didn’t even know what to say. My feelings were hurt and I felt like crying. I wish I had a good comeback line that wouldn’t have brought me down to his level but would have let him know what an ass he was being.......

That level of unkindness/lack of basic humanity can make you feel so lonely. Sorry you were treated that way I'm glad that it was important to you not to sink to his level. The world seems to be in a great struggle right now and it needs people willing to champion civility and tenderness. You should feel proud that you showed a genuine response (he could probably see the pain in your eyes) and walked away. As my mother used to say, "he made the angels cry and you helped them dry their tears"

[jusca]

that person was a ticking time bomb. you really don't want a comeback for someone like that unless you're prepared for things to escalate quickly and possibly physically. fir him to act like that with a stranger, he's really crazy and begging for trouble. one of the best things to do is take the high road and leave. curse them out in your head.

[jusca]

Originally Posted by Gams

I thought about it later and wish I had said something like, “I didn’t mean to make you angry - I was just double checking.” But then again, people who get angry over nothing don’t usually get over it until they are good and ready.

this comes off as you taking the blame from his bad attitude in which you had no bearing on his funky attitude. he was angry long before you.

[LAC]

I have only been to a casino once in my life and more than likely will never go again. I had no idea that people did things like tipping a chair or setting down a purse to "save their spot" at a machine. Why does management even allow this?

With regard to the total loser who was so nasty to you, I think I'd feel like crying too. But as others have said, just walking away was probably the best thing to do. He obviously has issues and who knows how things would have escalated if you had responded.

[cecififi]

Whenever anyone insults me I tend to find a way to agree with them. It's easy to do because I don't personalize their bad behaviour. It makes me chuckle and have a bit of fun in the moment. That guy obviously has anger issues and who knows - maybe a gambling addiction and was on a serious losing streak so was highly agitated and couldn't manage being interrupted.

If someone asked me "how stupid are you" I would probably ask them what tool they use to measure stupidity so I can be as accurate as possible in my response.

Also, I likely would have spoken to a manager about that customer's behaviour. He was verbally assaultive to you and clearly has much bigger problems than the pressure of guarding a purse. I am sorry that happened to you. Sometimes people cross our paths in life to remind us of how NOT to be - ever.

[Gams]

I remember one day on my way to work pulling into a gas station behind a guy who had a tail light out. When he got out of his car, I said, “You may already know this, but in case you don’t, I thought I’d let you know you have a tail light out.” He said, “Why don’t you mind your own f****** business.” I felt like I had been slapped in the face and felt bad all day. Another time I was in the gas station getting some ice at the fountain and some guy came up next to me to get something to drink and he said, “Damn, you smell good!” It made me laugh and I felt good all day. So I try to be less verbal with negative thoughts and more verbal with positive thoughts. I try to compliment people on their appearance and when I have a good meal in a restaurant, I always ask my waitress to tell the chef my food was perfect. Last time I did that at Applebee’s, the manager came over and thanked me for thanking the chef. 😁. I also call companies and thank them for good customer service. After a horrible customer service experience with Vitalicious, I had some great customer service from Chewy, so I called them just to let them know.

[Susan H]

Gams, I would have felt like crying and probably would have later. You sound like a very kind hearted person. I think we need more people willing to show kindness to others. And, I agree with you about Chewy. They've always been excellent to deal with.