07-04-18, 09:51 PM | |
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But the sad reality is that often relationships are discarded without women having any choice in the matter. In which case I agree it's better to be prepared and armed with knowledge. Again, I'm hoping for the best for Lilypad.
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07-05-18, 07:21 AM | |
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Also agree, especially if the relationship is a good one. Also, nude photos do not mean an infidelity... maybe only a flirtation... the friend maybe sent them to him and he is innocent.. but also maybe not. The last thing I would do is go to a lawyer at this stage of the game. And if something did happen, talk about it, affairs happen all the time, big whoop... if a relationship is strong it is something that can be worked through if both parties love each other and want to work it out.
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07-05-18, 07:52 AM | |
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I am so sorry that you and your family are in this situation.
If you have access to an Employee Assistance Program, I suggest you call and set up an appointment to be seen by a counselor. This is a rough time and a 3rd party can help you navigate thru this storm and especially help you with your child. Hugs. |
07-05-18, 09:41 AM | |
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I do not have any advice, but I wanted to send you some hugs and say I am sorry you are going through this.
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07-05-18, 10:24 AM | |
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Lilypad - obviously, strangers on the internet are going to have a wide range of opinions. For example, I think infidelity is a *huge* deal. Maybe a deal breaker, maybe not.
I also think women often get screwed in family court. I recommended speaking to a knowledgeable person (like a lawyer), to make sure you and your children are protected...not because I advise throwing away a marriage, but because I don't want you to be blindsided if things go south. (ie. going to counseling/etc to preserve your marriage but later finding continued infidelity). How is your daughter feeling/processing what she found? I have a 12 year old DD, and I can't imagine her handling this sort of experience. ETA: I also recommend having the mods delete this thread once you've processed a bit. Best wishes. (hugs) |
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