Culture shift
I know it's frustrating to see a loved one resisting an assistive device that could be so helpful, but what you are describing is a true culture shift.
I began wearing hearing aids at age 40. I have had hearing loss since birth but it was becoming more noticeable. I work in a loud hospital department and it was difficult to distinguish voices over phones, fax machines, alarm bells, scraping chairs, etc.
But the turning point was missing female voices all the time, especially when I was in the car. DH would translate for me what DD said from the back seat and literally I would tell him what to tell her - and he would say "you can tell her, SHE can hear".
I ended up purchasing expensive over-the-ear hearing aids ($3600/pair) and it did take a lot of fittings and slow adjustments with the audiologist programming changes. They are super easy to put in and very comfortable. I had to change the size of the over-the-ear device because I press phones to my ear all day long and have to do this pain-free.
I have multiple channels - one for "regular" environments, one for restaurants & movie theaters (magnifies the sound directly in front of me, not the sounds all around me) and one super-duper magnifying one that just cranks up everything.
They really, really work. I remember the first time I put them in and left the doctor's office and saw a woman with her little daughter just outside the door. She was leaning down with her back to me whispering and for the first time in my life i could hear her - and her daughter's voices. It was astounding. I am amazed at what I've been missing.
So I wear them at work and when going out for restaurants and movies and such. But I admit I don't wear them all the time at home or at the beach. I watch TV with close captioning on and now DH cannot live without CC either.
My excuses for not wearing them when I'm just relaxing at home are: (1) they are super expensive, and I lost one once (!) and had to pay $1800 cash to replace it. These hearing aids hook on sweaters & hats and I've literally flung them out of my ear and onto the road! and (2) the batteries are kinda pricey and I replace them once/week even when limiting my hearing aid use to work & outings. The more difficult part about batteries is if you buy them in bulk or online, often they aren't fresh and they are "dead" before you even put them in. So you are constantly chasing "fresh" batteries.
I cannot imagine living without hearing aids now. I now realize that I shaped my life around my hearing loss - reading lips, sitting up front in class, sometimes cupping my hand around my ear. It's embarrassing how much I've missed. But not being able to hear my own daughter's voice in a moving car was the turning point.
I wish you & your father the best. Be kind, know that part of solving a problem is admitting you have a problem. At his age it might be painful to admit that body parts are failing. Everyone will experience this at some point in their lives, I hope our loved ones are kind to us when it happens.
Best,
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Dawn P.
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