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Location: Arlington, VA
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It would be fun to start a "no offense intended or taken" where we can be irreverent. I don't care for the term political correctness, particularly now. We all have hot buttons for sure but I don't think anyone here intentionally is unkind to fellow VFers. Well, maybe except when discussing the Guru (haha, I am just kidding, so please, no one get upset). But you know what, people who bring up concerns there seem motivated by good intentions. I have been dressed down a few times here, And only once did I think the person had issues due to the vitriol of her attack on me. it was about how I didn't care for an instructor 's fake eyelashes or something stupid, and in her response to me, she said my post was why she didn't log onto VF much. Haha. Tempest in a teapot.
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I'm sorry for those who've had such poor experiences here! I've been here a long time as well though have never been a major or 'popular' player. But I've always enjoyed reading GD threads and participating when I could. I've both learned and been entertained a lot! However, I do agree there's been more negativity and perhaps 'touchiness' in recent years, and I don't really know why. I know there've been a few times I pulled away from VF - specifically the GD forum - for a while. And when I think about it I guess that contributed to my lessening interest in participating here. (Though I'm also spending time exploring other interests.) But yeah, I'm definitely not posting as much and often it's just because I don't have anything worthwhile to add to an existing thread. And in some cases, threads have turned negative and I've no wish to participate. Hoping for more kindness and the support VF has always been about!
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08-19-17, 12:51 PM | |||
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We've had a few discussions of declining numbers of threads on VF before. Since then, I have more evidence from "personal experience" that there's a wider shift from forums like these to things like social media. One forum is changing software, and gossip is that the reason is partially financial. Another forum closed its dedicated site and moved to Facebook. I've heard similar things about forums that I've never visited.
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[Edited to add: I do appreciate that people have felt pain and hurt; my post is not at all intended to dismiss those reactions. Rather, I propose that pain and hurt may help us think about how we reply to others. ] I'm still not trying to play moderator in this new paragraph, but I like what WWWendy posted in a similar thread earlier this year, which ironically enough was closed (though because of a tangent and not because the main discussion itself deteriorated). Quote:
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08-19-17, 01:02 PM | |
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I'm guessing that those days are over. Which is part of the reason I changed my VF name from Alta-Tude to Vintage VFer.
Still, to paraphrase a line in the film, The Big Lebowski: "The 'Tude abides..."
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08-19-17, 05:11 PM | ||
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One trick I learned long ago was the ability to unsubscribe from threads that I no longer want to read. When things go hostile, I will often post my opinion in what I hope is a reasonable manner and then back out slowly and quietly.
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08-19-17, 07:53 PM | |
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I find I just don't have a lot to add to most threads. Similar to what others have already said, my workouts tastes don't seem to match the popular trends these days. My video workouts are comprised of 70% vintage step workouts and 30% Cathe stength training. Half the workouts I do on a regular basis are on VHS!
As those in my check-in will attest, I am even bad about checking-in on a regular basis. I find that I am also doing more non-video workouts and don't always have much to add to the conversation. Now, if someone wants to start a GD thread on old CIA, Evolution, Kari Anderson, or Charlene Prickett step workouts, I will be one of the first to chime in!
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08-19-17, 08:16 PM | |
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doh. double post.
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