08-19-17, 07:49 AM | |
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Buzzer-I also have several VF friends who left because of negativity. We keep in touch through email and Facebook. I miss seeing them posting here.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. Sherry
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08-19-17, 08:06 AM | |
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: New Jersey
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Agree completely with you Buzzer. I even remember the threads you're talking about. I love your posts though I also don't respond to some posts if I feel like I don't have an answer. But maybe so someone doesn't feel ignored, I'll pop in and say, "wish I had an answer, but I don't."
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08-19-17, 08:12 AM | ||
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People have the right to their opinion. And sometimes to feel heard they repeat themselves over and over because they need their opinion to be validated and not attack. Just because we don't agree it's also not right to attack someone who feels different. When this happens, the person with the opposing opinion only gets more defensive and attacks back because they believe they are being attacked as a person. A little kindness goes a long way. |
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08-19-17, 09:25 AM | |
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: New Jersey
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Izzy I'm sorry! Maybe it was the way the VFer presented the opinion? Sometimes knowing the context of something goes a long way. I wish that had not happened to you. If I was a part of that thread, I'm sorry. I don't know the situation and I can't think of the thread you are talking about, but knowing that it hurt you is just awful. I'm glad you're at VF.
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08-19-17, 10:04 AM | |
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: NJ
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Buzzer and Izzy voiced much of what I have felt.
I know many people are unaware of most drama, especially if not the direct victim of it. Many times I saw someone was attacked unfairly and it was as toxic as being attacked myself. Ironically, the few members who are here to take offense and counter-punch were already on my ignore list. I may not have responded as I should have because I have found those who are looking for a fight will not respond well and the drama and negativity will just worsen, hurting everyone and not helping anyone. There are toxic personalities everywhere so I try to avoid them best I can but I am sorry that I saw abuse and did not stand up for the person being abused. Barb S
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