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I also feel bad for those who are childless b/c they can't have kids--I always imagine how hard it would be for THEM to get this question. Quote:
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01-30-13, 09:49 PM | |
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DH and I were married for 8 years before we finally decided to have kids. I was a bit reluctant, knowing that my life was going to change. I have done daycare, coached, and taught public school. I knew what I was getting into. I love my kids and wouldn't change a thing.
Honestly, I can't believe some of the comments. My IL's used to bug us about when we were going to have kids, then when was baby #2 going to be. They scratched their heads with baby #3 and when I got my bonus baby girl, the comments come about our "huge" family. I think that there is just way too much criticism out there. I used to work with school teachers who chose to not have kids. People would scratch theri hands and call them selfish. I don't think it's selfish to not have kids. As another person upthread mentioned...it would be worse to have kids you don't want. We just all need to love and be tolerant...as Rodney King put it, "Can't we all just get along?" . Jackie |
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01-30-13, 10:18 PM | |
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Wow, I was just going to read the comments, but had to chime in and say, "Me, too!" I'm in my early 30s and DH and I have been together 12 years. I am an only child and just recently had the blunt talk with my mother (who is desperately waiting) to tell her I have no maternal instinct and no desire to have children, so don't wait up for us (I think she's stalling some of her life plans thinking she needs to be close by because a baby is coming). I've heard it all from just about everyone over the years...sigh...
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01-30-13, 10:26 PM | |
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I am also an only child. DH and I never wanted children. I also don't feel that I have any maternal instincts. Although, I feel differently about pets (dogs). My Mom always supported us and said it was our decision. My DH had a V when we were married 5 years because we didn't want to deal with BC any longer. My MIL, of course blamed it all on me and made it sound like I made her son get a V against his will. She said that I was a "greedy little girl".
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01-30-13, 10:28 PM | |
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My DH and waited five years to have children and honestly I could have gone either way. I wholeheartedly agree that having children is a choice and not for everyone. The comments and criticism childless couples receive is so wrong. But it works both ways and I have to jump in and say that I have heard many negative, hurtful comments about children and parenthood from those who are childless and that's wrong too.
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I can also relate to being the only child and constantly being pressed by my parents . My mother recently even said that I should just have a baby and if I don't want him/her she Will raise them ....I was shocked and told her to adopt a baby if she so desperately needed one. But I refuse to go against myself to simply please others .
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