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This thread has indeed been therapeutic and one thing that hits home for me is what you indicated, that we should give ourselves as much grace and acceptance as we do others. <3
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Our appearance, our bodies, do not define us. This is something that we are told from childhood, but it sometimes takes nearly a lifetime to internalize. |
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Aww, I am sorry to hear about those experiences.
There are always plenty of messages to girls and young women in this culture that appearance does matter, a lot. You can’t miss them. But I also grew up with a lot of other messages that it is what’s inside that counts. That girls can do anything and it is not based on what you look like. I’m sad for those that didn’t and don’t. |
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I've had a lifetime of eating disorders and other issues due to the food/body size/weight messages and treatment I got since I was a young child. It was very clear to me that my worth within my family and society was based on my body size. I got very lucky to marry a man who loves me dearly no matter what my size (I've been everywhere from very underweight to obese during our 35 year marriage) but the eating disorders themselves have been very hard on him and I feel guilty about how they have affected him. Erica |
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02-01-22, 07:49 AM | |
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My mother used to share with me when I was way too young some damaging things her own mother (my grandmother) told her about beauty, skincare, weight, and generally pretty toxic things about how a woman's worth is centered around her appearance. My grandmother had also quit smoking at some point and then took it back up again to lose weight. It ultimately killed her at an age we now think of as very young, and it was all due to internalizing these messages. So I know that a lot of my feelings are not the healthiest.
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I was also emotionally abused growing up and had a very low self esteem, even though I was very pretty. Appearance doesn't matter much when you haven't been supported in other ways, which affects me even as an adult. But, life is what you make it and I'm more self accepting than I once was. It's taken years, though. I just have to move past all of the negativity I've been fed in the past, as life's too short to dwell on it.
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