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View Poll Results: How do you feel about "personal" posts? | |||
I don't mind personal posts. | 32 | 74.42% | |
I don't mind personal posts. I just don't read them. | 2 | 4.65% | |
I don't like seeing personal posts. | 2 | 4.65% | |
Personal posts are awful! | 0 | 0% | |
I don't care one way or the other. | 7 | 16.28% | |
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12-25-23, 09:36 PM | |
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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Two more direct points:
- Off-fitness discussion in the check-ins hasn't engaged me for a number of reasons. For example, I'm fairly private and never want to post All About My Life in the check-ins, especially because that part of VF is open for outsiders to read. - We've had occasional "getting to know you" threads. I'd be surprised if I ever responded to a non-fitness question as it stood. Sometimes I've simply skipped such questions altogether (I've glad that no one's expressed any pressure that I remember to respond to every question there ). Sometimes I've modified them, in a non-contrived way, into related fitness questions. For example, I'm not very interested in "what's your favorite color," but I'd be more interested in "have your color preferences affected your workout purchases or practices?") And three related points, the last of which may lead to a separate thread later: - I'm reminded of social icebreakers. I haven't done one since college (both in academic and social groups) and don't miss them. Although I don't find them completely horrible, I've also never felt more connected to individuals or groups after having done them. Some may include some fun, but the fun doesn't feel like something that lasts. ("Team-building" also generally feels that way to me.) I feel more connected with "deeper" on-topic and insightful discussion. - I'm also reminded of my June post in a thread named "Fitness Celebrity Instructor Influencer Workout Trends." I have similar thoughts about check-ins and about forums as a whole; I don't object entirely to "friendship," but it has to form naturally, without something that feels like "since we're classmates, co-workers, or neighbors, I now expect you to remember and celebrate my birthday." - This thread also reminds me, through a series of tangents, of a personality-related subject (I'm probably a "highly sensitive person"). I'm not very actively working on that post, but I'm thinking sometimes about the subject and hope to start a fitness-related thread at some time in General Discussion.
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12-30-23, 06:29 AM | ||
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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A few weeks ago, finding my PM box full got me to clear some space. In reviewing old PMs, I rediscovered how I get a sense of affirmation, connection, encouragement, and support from people who've shared my (then-)non-mainstream views on controversial fitness subjects. (I deleted just a few PMs related to conversations that didn't go somewhere, and I've kept all the "agreement" ones. ) I'm not opposing your point for yourself; I'd just dispute anyone's suggestion that on-topic stuff somehow won't build community or that off-topic "personal" stuff is necessary (or desirable) for everyone. (It's actually kept me from participating more in check-ins! )
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit |
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12-31-23, 06:52 PM | |
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Australia
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Henry
- in real life, I'm one of the most UNsocial people, as I'm much better when I can choose (and edit, re-edit, delete...) what I'm saying and thereby avoid being blunt, brusque, or even perceived as rude. ON-topic converstation can also build community - definitely agree there, but my personality means a deeper picture is more satisfying. Hope you have a wonderful year ahead.
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01-01-24, 02:32 AM | ||||
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At the same time, though, I also like the energy of a talk or chat--in a different way and for different purposes. I realized some time ago that this difference is one reason that I don't feel connected to the non-fitness talk in the check-ins, and it's similar to why I don't feel connected to off-topic threads either. I'd rather socialize in a chat (whether oral or written) than in posts! Quote:
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit |
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