10-11-11, 06:57 AM | |
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I'm glad to see the more recent posts on this thread. I'm really starting to feel sorry for the men on this planet. It seems that they can't do (or say) anything right. If they don't notice a weight loss (or haircut), they're accused of not caring. If they mention a possible change, the woman gets all defensive. This has nothing to do with the OP, but when someone starts to gain or lose lots of weight in an unhealthy manner, the loved one may be speaking out of concern, not "control". The more I think about it, the more I believe that we are our own worst enemies.
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10-11-11, 09:27 AM | ||
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10-11-11, 09:41 AM | ||
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I hope that one's husband (again I'm not married yet) would know his wife well enough to know which things to comment/compliment/give constructive criticism on, and which things to keep his mouth shut on...and likewise for the wife of the partnership!!! It seems like people are forever criticising my weight (whether I'm in good shape or not) and I would only hope my future husband would know well enough when to lighten up or not comment on a situation (and I would hope I would know him well enough to return that favor, be it with work, finances, or weight, whatever). ETA: In regards to the original poster, I don't think I'd let it haunt me if my guy told me he would prefer me to gain weight, but I would much rather have my guy tell me he likes me just the way I am, instead of prefering me to alter myself in some way (gain/lose weight, longer/shorter hair, wear more of a certain color or dress up/down, etc.)
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10-11-11, 09:53 AM | ||
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I don't mean to cause any more of a stir but I don't quite agree with this comment:
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Yes, we love our significant others unconditoinally but I believe in a realtionship, both have to do things that is for the betterment of each other. Taking care of your health is one of them and I think spouses should be able to voice their concerns with each others health freely. Of course, this is my opinion an I speaking from a health perspective (not looks).
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10-11-11, 09:57 AM | |
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I agree, dironstarr. My husband and I *are* each other's family, especially since neither of us have living parents. We take care of ourselves and, to a certain extent, yes of each other as well. Why not? We are devoted to each other and have been happily together for 32 years - who better to offer love, care and support?
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10-11-11, 11:29 AM | ||
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10-11-11, 11:32 AM | |
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I think it's amuzing that this thread has 6 pages of discussion when the original poster is not even asking a question or asking for advice. She ends with "I'm not worried, just puzzled". In all seriousness, what is the purpose of the post then? I don't get it. If you are puzzled, why would you ask the opinions of a forum full of fitness gals? Ask your husband.
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10-11-11, 11:34 AM | ||
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