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This is hard in a culture which trains us to comment on other women's bodies constantly, either positively or negatively. Celebrities may be a bit different because they send messages to society so people tend to take it more 'personally'.
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05-30-20, 02:40 PM | ||
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I've felt a bit uncomfortable in the past on the rare occasion when someone has asked me if I've noticed their (intentional) weight loss. I strongly prefer people don't say anything about my own body (whether "too thin", "too big", or "just right"), so I try to focus on the person vs. "the body" as much as humanly possible when it comes to other people. That said, I'm still my own harshest critic and admit I am not so good at applying this philosophy when it comes to my own self and body. I let myself get the two tangled up too frequently in my mind (my self and my body). Or maybe I just need to merge the two in a more healthy way. |
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05-31-20, 11:20 AM | ||
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05-31-20, 12:39 PM | |
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Oh gosh, yes. I wish people would keep all weight comments to themselves. I feel like it’s okay to say “you look great!” to someone I haven’t seen in a long time, because I have said that regardless of weight, and it’s not really a comment on weight. But maybe some might feel that it is, if they have lost weight?
I will have to be more careful. I have always been a normal weight, so I have felt really confused sometimes when someone tells me I look like I have lost (or gained ) weight. I haven't always known if a “lose weight” comment is even a compliment; sometimes it does not sound like it. Either way I don’t appreciate it, because really? they are looking at me that closely that they can see whether I am up or down five pounds? It’s so uncomfortable. |
05-31-20, 03:44 PM | ||
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adawn, but that's your body, you can do whatever you want with it, if you think it needs to look a certain way, that's your choice so IMO it's fine. It's commenting on how other people's bodies should look (especially under the guise of 'caring' about them) that bothers me. Maybe someone WANTS to be a little "extra slim", or a little "extra curvy" or whatever, their body their choice. How is their body hurting me? Now if someone is judging me, then I'm more likely to judge them - so maybe a little less judgement all around is good!
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06-05-20, 03:14 PM | |
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I thought of this thread just now because I'm listening to an Audible book - the protagonist has just met someone new, and she comments "Even though he was very thin, he appeared healthy." I think if it was a woman she was meeting the comment might be something like "Even though she was not very thin, she appeared healthy"
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06-05-20, 10:11 PM | |
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That song, all about that bass, makes fun of thinner women. Someone made a parody song saying the opposite, talking badly about bigger women and they were panned and booed. It's always been that way. It's like you can talk bad about thin or skinny and even in shape women but don't you DARE say anything bad about big women. It seems fat is in now and plus sized women are now the It girls. I have always thought it was wrong that you can talk about skinny women but not big girls. It has been that way since I was a young child.
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06-05-20, 11:15 PM | |
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Orange County, CA
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I sorta remember that song - I am guessing the line you’re referring to is “I’m bringing booty back; go on and tell them skinny b*****s that..” But I think that line was referring to the series of Skinny B***h cookbooks that were created and published in the mid 2000s as how-to guides to being thin and seemed to sorta make the point that everyone would want to be a skinny b****h and they could be if only they would eat better, exercise more and drink Bethany Frankel’s SkinnyGirl margaritas or whatever So to me that line is just a play on those books and not an insult to thinner women. Are there other parts of that song that are insulting to thin women? I totally agree, it is as bad to say mean things about being thinner as it is to say mean things about being fatter.
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